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I'm waiting to leave for my honeymoon *yaay* and my fiance and I are feeling really strange and can't shake the feeling.  Our wedding was Saturday and it was gorgeous, perfect day, people loved our details, etc... We had a gorgeous tented reception at my parents farm.  People loved it.

   The problem is some of my fiance's friends drank waaaay too much.  In particular the woman who introduced us.  She was so drunk that my father in law came to get me.  When I got there she was sitting in a chair her eyes were rolling back into her head. My husband (it's so cool to call him that) and I picked her up and tried to bring her into the house (it was around 9:30) as we were getting her up the stairs she vomited on me, and my dress.  I got her a bucket, held it for her, and held her hair.  After she was done I cleaned her off and tried to call someone to come get her (she was alone).  No one would come get her.  My fiance and I moved her outside with my father's help to a lawn chair.  We took turns sitting with her for 6 hours (yes... until 4 a.m.) missing most of our reception.  When she woke up she was still totally drunk demanding her keys.  We argued for awhile and she finally let us drive her and her car home (an hour away.. at 4 a.m.)- on the way to her house she puked on my husband.  We got back to our home at 6 a.m.  What a way to spend our wedding night, eh?  No one else would take her, and we couldn't leave her with a stranger.

   Today we were cleaning up and found things from my husband's other pal's.  Vomit all over, they had a food fight in parents bedroom, 100 dollars worth of cigars in the pool, and I guess a few of them were hitting on my mother.  

   I feel humiliated, as does my husband.  They are his friends, but they typically don't act like this  (they're all over 26).  To tell you the truth it sort of ruined our wedding reception. 

  i'm angry and want to say something, but don't know if I should just hold my tounge.  We weren't very good hosts to our guests because we were taking care of this girl.  Should we apologize to our other guests, or just let it slide?  This is so embarassing.

    Oh... someone also got shot with a firework (but is ok).  

   It was a wedding to be remembered. thanks for letting me vent.

Regarding the woman who vomited on your dress - I think you are each responsible for your own actions. She may not have intended to become so drunk; maybe she her body reacted to the alcohol differently than ever before due to what she had eaten or if she had taken any medication etc. She certainly owes you an apology and a portion of your dry cleaning bill. I would ask the dry cleaner how much extra it will cost (above a regular cleaning bill) to remove the vomit stain. I would ask the woman to meet you for coffee and explain to her what happened (she probably doesn't rememebr) and ask her to pay for that portion of your dry cleaning bill. If she is a decent person she will appologize and write a check immediately. If not then it is a reflection on her bad behavior and I would cut her off as a friend. As for her occupying much of your time, you did not necessarily have to spend your evening with her. You could have called an ambulance and had her taken away so you could rejoin your party. You can't really blame her for your choice to spend so much time with her. She definately owes you a thank you for sparing her an ambulance bill though. If I were her I would send you flowers and a sincere apology.

In any case I'm sorry you had to deal with such rude guests and such disappointment and embarassment. Hopefully there were also nice moments you can treasure as memories and try to forget the bad ones!