- 10 years ago
- Wedding: August 2008
I’m getting married in seven months and got worried when I learned that it takes 4-6 months for a wedding gown to be made. I felt a bit rushed and ended up going to 4 bridal salons in 2 days. I purchased my dress within 2 days of my search. I tried on about 15 dresses before making my purchase.
I fell in love with a $4k chantilly lace gown at bridal salon #3, but could not justify the cost. The next day, I went to the Bridal Garden, a charity shop in NYC that sells excess samples or donated gowns, and found a dress that was very similar for $500(!). I put a deposit on it, and the next day returned with my mother to get her nod of approval before paying for it and leaving with it.
When I got home, however, the buyer’s remorse started setting in. I began to wonder if my initial excitement about buying the dress with a combination of (1) fear that I could not get a dress in time for the wedding; (2) thrill of huge bargain; and (3) just wanting to get the dress shopping done and moving on to other stuff.
Dress shopping, part deux:
It did not help that I was watching "Say Yes to the Dress" marathon and saw all different types of dresses. I went dress shopping again yesterday with my fiancee and found a $3k dress that I really love. It is made by a local designer, so would take only 4 months to get in, giving me plenty of time for alterations.
My 150 person, Friday night wedding reception in Manhattan is $30,000. Once I add in DJ, flowers, photog/video, etc, the budget is nearly $50k. This is driving me crazy, since I’m usually a penny pincher. I feel like I can splurge in one area and I wanted to do that in the photog/video category. If I buy the $3k dress, then I won’t feel comfortable with getting video. Video would have been nice for many members of my family, who live abroad and cannot make it to the wedding.
Do I buy another wedding dress? I have to make a decision really soon. Should I just try on lots of dresses and get the whole "I’m getting married in a beautiful gown!" out of my system? How do I really know if the first dress is what I really want if I keep falling in love with other dresses? Should I be so self-centered and buy a gown that I will wear once, forgoing the fact that a huge portion of my family will be unable to enjoy the wedding vicariously through video?
Thanks for your opinions — I’d love to hear from other brides who purchased a second dress.