(Closed) Wedding guest Complaining about date

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee

How rude of them! You only get married once, and football games can be recorded. People need to get their priorites in order. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Is it the SuperBowl?  If so, I understand.  I would never say anything to the bride but I would definitely think it, if I were invited to a wedding on SuperBowl Sunday. 

At any rate, people will complain about any and everything.  The date, the time, the meal, blah blah just do what is best for you and in the end all will be fine.

ETA:  I just noticed your date is in November.  Not sure what game is that important then!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes that is over the moon rude! It’s your day and if ppl want to put a game the can really miss over your day then forget about them and enjoy your day and the ppl that care about you… Too tell you the truth I would have said ” if you want to complain then don’t come” but I am a little mean sometimes lol. Congratulations on your up and coming wedding

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Ew!  I can’t believe how important college football is down South and how rude everyone is to think that you would schedule your once-in-a-lifetime WEDDING around a once-a-week football game.  Don’t let them get to you.  If football is more important, you don’t want them there anyway! 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes.  A cousin complained that our wedding was scheduled the same day as the only home night game our college team has this season (FTR my wedding was scheduled first).  As you can see from my screen name, it was tough for me too but September is our favorite month and we wanted to get married before the weather turned icky (which it did, while we were on our honeymoon).  Never mind the fact that she got married on the last Saturday in September 5 years ago…

But this is the same cousin who complained that we threw my SIL’s baby shower on a Sunday because it interfered with NFL games, so I took it with a grain of salt.  Incidentally, we did not have TVs at our wedding.  Everyone was able to follow the action just fine on their smartphones. 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are in the south where college football comes second to Jesus, and since you are in SC I am assuming that everyone is gettin worked up about the Clemson/SC game. (yes, huge college fb fan here if you couldnt tell). I wont lie I would probably make a remark to my fiance if we couldnt watch our football game, but i would NEVER say it to the bride. That is hurtful. Just ignore it bc they probably have no clue they are coming off that rude.

Also, my cousin and his wife graduated from a big SEC school and their wedding was the night of the biggest game of the year and my cousin and all his friends watched the game during the reception…..so I would not recommend having a television around.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

People are idiots. Games can be recorded. Also… they’re just games. I’m a huge sports fan, but I’d never miss a social event I cared about the watch a game.

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Sadly it’s a fact of life that some people schedule their entire lives around college football season.  It does not mean that you have to but it does mean that you will have to deal with some people choosing football over your wedding.  It’s rude of them to say anything to you about it though.  I would act bewildered and say “gee, I didn’t know a football game was that important but if you really must miss my wedding for a football game then I guess you must.  Enjoy the game.”  You don’t want people at your wedding that don’t want to be there and they are beyond rude by saying something to you about it.

Your only other option is to provide a tv at the reception but I will tell you now the tv will be the center of every red blooded man’s attention while that game is on.  I know it because I have seen it at multiple weddings and if the local team loses they will be in a bad mood.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

P.S. Clemson vs. USC as in Univ. of South Carolina?  That’s a big local rivalry since USC is in Columbia , SC.  Plus it’s the last game of the regular season.  I’m sure part of the issue is that some of your football fan guests probably planned to attend that game in person since it’s a holiday weekend.  It would be like scheduling a wedding on during a Florida-Georgia game.  Thanksfully your wedding is in Columbia and the game is at Clemson or your guests would be dealing with the extra out-of-town guests.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My wedding is on the same day as the Florida Georgia game… it was accidental, but kind of funny since he is from GA and I’m from FL, but this game is usually a big deal (though decidedly not as important as the Florida Florida State game).  Everyone has been very cool about it, though.  Even the family friend who is smoking our meats, who has season passes to all the Gator Games, is coming to my wedding instead which was really sweet. 

Sorry people are being so rude!  In the end, if those people choose a football game over your wedding, don’t let it ruin your day because obviously you aren’t a priority! 

We are considering having a tv set up somewhere in the kitchen for those who just HAVE to see the game, they can sneak in and see it, but if that doesn’t pan out I won’t be devastated and hopefully they won’t be either!

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My future MIL forced me to change my shower date due to a football game she wanted to watch. Now my Maid of Honor (who is also coordinating my shower) might not be able to attend.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, I admit to being a crazy football fan and I plan on sneaking  my phone out during the reception to check the scores and catching the game later. I would never dream of complaining to a bride about it, hands down my friends wedding is more important, this person is an asshole ignore them.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

haha this could be my family, but my receptions IN our football ground (it’s a soccer stadium 100 years old, it’s stunningly beautiful).  I can see why you’re annoyed.  At the end of the day we live in a technology driven society – they can Sky + it the next day, they can get it online, they can check it on their phone between the cermony and the reception – so there’s no excuse what so ever for them to complain.

Theres football games on every week, your wedding is once in a lifetime and I think they are being soo selfish.  Stand your ground with them and just carry on planning.

I hope you’re ok x

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