Wedding Guest Dress Inappropriate or Not?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think the second is more appropriate as long as it is longer on you than it is on the model.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I would say that the first dress is too short, and that the colors may border on inappropriate if the bride is territorial about the color white.  It’s not something I would wear to a wedding even if I had the body for it.  I think of banquets as being somewhat formal events, instead of young weddings where dancing is the main focus.

 

BUT my FI’s family is Vietnamese, and I’ve seen plenty of Vietnamese girls wearing similar dresses at all sorts of events.  It seems to be the status quo, that the younger women dress pretty sexy.  FI’s grandmother is the only one who’s ever been disapproving, and that’s only when it’s FI’s sister in the short dress 🙂

 

If you know the bride well, just ask her!  I wouldn’t mind if one of my guests wanted to run their attire by me, especially if they weren’t sure of the level of formality or cultural requirements.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I dont see the problem with the first one (other than it looks really short). But i’m a very laid back bride. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I see nothing wrong with either of the dresses.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@ingoingwallflower:  Meh, I wouldn’t be too thrilled with someone else wearing white, but I wouldn’t complain about it either.  Both of them seem too short for an evening wedding, so I’d probably stare down the length before the color!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ingoingwallflower:  I personally don’t see an issue with either dress, but the first is a bit too skimpy for me personally to wear, so I would opt for the black since it’s more covered.  I’m also pretty open-minded regarding attire though, and see no issue with wearing black to a wedding (or red, FWIW).

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

The first dress looks too much like a rehearsal dress or reception dress that the bride would wear. Plus it is really very short. I would choose the second one.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Those don’t look like wedding guest attire, they look like afternoon at the mall attire. I think it’s too casual.

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

What about something longer? I feel like a dress worn to a wedding should at LEAST touch the tops of your knees!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hm… they are both pretty short. I would go with the black if, and only if, it is at least between mid thigh and knee. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I have a feeling (although I might be wrong) that the colour black represents bad luck in Chinese culture – might be worth checking before buying.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@RainStorm:  Actually, there is nothing wrong with wearing black at Chinese weddings, unless your family has adopted Western customs. In fact, white is traditionally the worst colour you could wear because white is the colour worn at funerals!

 

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

Well I am unsure about the culture and if one is better than the other, but I dislike the first one. It looks almost like a corset top and is white as others have mentioned. Its too short as well. The black looks a tad short too. Finding dresses these days is hard cause they tend to be very short. But overall I like the black one better.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ingoingwallflower:  I wouldn’t have a problem with the colours of those dresses, but they might be too casual for a formal evening wedding. Also they should at least be longer than midthigh. A shrug or shawl might be a nice way to dress up the first dress?

 

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