(Closed) Need to cheer up my FI!!! Help!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Hmmm to make him feel better how about boudoir pix in the mountains ;)….. As far as the friends, people oftentimes make plans to attend what they really want to, there may have been financial problems that just came up, or maybe they spent too much money on those vacations.  Perhaps they’ll send a really nice gift since they couldn’t attend (HUGS)

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper

What if you host a little party at your place, when you arrive back from your honeymoon?  It can be a simple wine/cheese type thing – that way – your friends can celebrate with you and you can share with them pictures, etc – and your FI can look forward to sharing the moment with those friends.

And – remind him – that while you are equally bummed about them not being able to attend – that at the end of it all -regardless of who is able to attend – you’ll be married!!  🙂  If you show less emotion about it, he’ll hopefully pick up on that.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

“but these are the same friends that have posted pictures of elaborate vacations they’ve been on ”     errhhhhhh – sorry but you lost me here

yes your wedding is important but where you choose to have it is imporant to you & not everyone else

i have no problem dropping $10K on a vacation of my choosing but if im spending alot of money to attend a wedding in a place that isnt where i would choose to go for a holiday then i other than my feelings for the couple, i have very little incentive to make the effort and attend.  you chose colorado because “we wanted them to get to see why we love it so much”.    that doesnt mean alot to the guest if they want to sit by the beach drinking tequila

dont mean to upset you but just wanted to explain where some of the guest are coming from

 

 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

I dont htink there is a magic way to cheer him up because the reality is that the friends dont have the wedding as high priority as he would like and theres no way around the fact that that just hurts. Keep reminding him that this is about yall and that at the end of the day, you’ll be married. 🙂

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yea bit of a tricky one, poor wee lamb 🙁

Well I think if you both support each other and treat yourselves to some couple time, he’ll see that he is loved very much by you and that unfortunatly when it comes to weddings, there really is nowt as queer as folk.

As long as you both have a good time it does’nt matter who attends or not.

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