(Closed) Wedding Guest Woes

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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2641 posts
Sugar bee

Well what do you want help with? 

I don’t know if it’s OK to not invite this guy.  Did you previously say or imply that he would be invited?  “Wait until you here this band play.”….. “Bring a sweater my  church is cold”….  If you’ve talked weddings that much, I’m thinking it might be best to invite him.

If you’re not close, how are you getting together to talk about weddings?  How often do you talk to him? If you truly aren’t that close to him, and don’t really speak to him, I suppose it’s not a problem. 

Post # 5
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3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I just think your going to have to deal with an awkward situation or rejigg the invite.

However have you allowed for people not to come? Like I know you have 150 people but did you over invite because about 15percent of guests actually decline which could make room for him.

Post # 6
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1830 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Well, if you feel like it would ruin your relationship (no matter how “not close”) you two are, then you should probably invite him. 1 more (2 if he brings the gf) person is not going to make a big difference (although if it is…then yeah, don’t invite for that reason), since you will probably get a some “No” rsvps anyways.

Otherwise, I’m sure if you don’t send an invite, he’ll get the hint. heh.

Post # 7
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735 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

Does your FH know you were talking to him? If so what does he think? If he doesn’t know you were talking- not worth the drama IMO (and time to stop talking to that guy period. )

Post # 8
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1765 posts
Buzzing bee

Here is a general answer: You could make a “B” list for those you couldn’t invite, and as people say they can’t come, you could invite from the B list.  I think this is done frequently.  Although, if there are other people who you and your FI would invite before him, he may not get invited.  Or you could suck it up and invite him if your FI doesn’t mind. 

Post # 9
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404 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Your wedding is in March 2011- you have a long way to go before those invites go out.  I would not stress about your guest list too much at this point.  A lot can change between now and then.

In the meantime, if you are not sure about inviting him I would not talk to him anymore about wedding planning.

Good luck!

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