Post # 1
So my husband and I just attended our 4th wedding this year, and I’m noticing a trend of family members bringing a DSLR camera and taking an obnoxious number of pictures during the wedding and reception. I know that your Nikon cost quite a bit and you want to get good use out of it — and that it takes phenomenal pictures! You’re totally entitled to do that. You’re not entitled to block the view of other guests for extended periods.
The couple has hired a professional photographer for a reason. At two weddings so far this season, I have witnessed a DSLR-wielding aunt or uncle blocking the view of guests and/or the actual photographer (!!) for the duration of specific events. Cake-cutting and first dances seem to be the most notorious. At my friend’s wedding, I witnessed her aunt taking what had to have amounted to at least 50 shots of the couple during their first dance. She was constantly moving, and blocked the vantage point of their assistant photographer. She also was blocking the view of people who had remained seated but wanted to watch the couple dancing. (She also stood up to stand in the aisle during the ceremony to snap several photos.)
My question is, why do you need 50 pictures of the couple dancing, cutting the cake, etc.? I totally understand wanting a few cake pictures, a few first dance shots, etc. But when your over-zealous snapping begins to block the work of the professional the couple hired to capture those moments for them, there is a huge problem!
Anyone else notice this trend?
Post # 2
Yeah, in the industry we refer to those people as “Uncle Bob”.
It is definitely a problem, and I don’t quite understand why people feel like they have to go around taking photos. There will be wedding photos from the pros, and they will likely be a lot better than Uncle Bob’s. A good coordinator will ask Uncle Bob to please stay out of the way of the pro, and sometimes photographers themselves have to get pushy. It’s a real shame.
I feel like it probably comes from older people who are used to smaller weddings with less fanfare and without pro photographers, or from younger people who are used to posting everything in their lives on social media. Either way, it’s uncool. Besides getting in the way, they can absolutely ruin an otherwise beautiful image. When I see a photo of the bride coming down the aisle, my eyes are immediately drawn to guests with a DSLR or iPhone stuck. And in situations where the light is lower, their flash can cause the pro’s photos to become completely washed out. I hope that in a few years it will be common wedding etiquette to refrain from taking pictures during important moments. I hope, I hope, I hope.
Post # 3
I have noticed this trend too! It’s really sad that some professional pics can be ruined by guests who insist on getting in the way with their DSLR camera. However, I can also see the other side of issue as well. At my wedding, a family friend took tons of pictures with his really nice DSLR camera. A few of his pictures are some of my favorites of the day! I think the main difference is knowing when it is appropriate. This friend NEVER tried to get in front of the photographer or in the way of other guests.
Post # 4
My boyfriend and I recently had this same conversation earlier this week! We’ve already been to three weddings this summer, and with two more next month, it really seems to be a growing trend and problem that we are trying to figure out how to solve for our wedding in the next couple of years. A friend of mine on Facebook uploaded a new cover photo of her walking down the aisle in her beautiful white down, and all I remember seeing were the be three cell phones, one iPad, and one DSLR camera alongside with her in the aisle. I mean she looked amazing, but quite frankly the photo looked photo bombed.
I presume this new trend is basically due to the fact that everyone has amazing phones with amazing cameras. And of course with social media waiting for the photos to be uploaded simultaneously as with the ongoing event, we see all the photos of people taking photos
My best friend went to a wedding earlier this year, and the bride and groom asked that there be no cameras or cell phones at their wedding. At first I thought it said be quite odd, but going into my fourth wedding this summer, I totally understand why! I think it’s going to be a suggestion that we adopt as well! I just can’t think of any other way to get around. I would want to give my professional photographers the opportunity to best captured quality moments, and not have to dodge guests and their cameras!
Post # 5
Meh. I can think of a hundred other things I was more worried about than other people taking pictures at the wedding. If they get in the way of the photographer, make sure they know they have totally permission to tell them to move and dont worry bout it.
Post # 6
MrsEdamame: I read an article about this once, where people are banning cell phones and digital cameras because of how it ruins photos. Like, the ease of picture taking makes the people in the audience no longer be focused on whats going on and instead are focused on taking pictures. So instead of beautiful reaction shots you might have gotten, they’re all pictures like these
Because of our elopement/courthouse wedding I’m going to allow cell pictures and stuff for the people who we invite, but if I was having a large wedding where I paid a lot of money for a good photographer, I would definitely go “digital free”
Post # 7
Since when did the perfect photo become the most important thing about a wedding? I say this about couples and “Uncle Bob”. Maybe if couples were less concerned about getting blog worthy photos then guests also would be less concerned.
Post # 8
One of my favourite pics from our pro photog is one she took of DH’s mum and all her friends huddled together excitedly trying to snap pictures of us cutting the cake. They didn’t disturb the pro photogs picture. A couple of my wedding pictures show a few people taking our picture during the ceremony or our first dance. This does not bother me. I actually like that they wanted to (and cared enough) make their own memories and record of the event. I’m sure had they gotten in our pro photog’s way she would have just politely asked them to move but luckily our friends and family seem to have enough decorum to not behave like that.
Post # 9
I read an article about this not long ago, http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/3331528. It’s a little ridiculous. I would take 1-2 pictures and then try to enjoy the rest of the time so I can produce good memories in my head.
Post # 10
j_jaye: I don’t know who here mentioned getting blog worthy photos. Perhaps that’s what you’re looking for, but I know myself and many other people would simply like quality attractive photos to look back on for many years to come.
Post # 11
j_jaye: I dont think it really has anything to do with “blog worthy photos”
I’d personally want pictures of my family and friends having a good time, smiling, crying, whatever. Not a slew of photos of them with their phones/cameras in front of their faces. What kind of memory is that?
Post # 12
a_day_at_the_fair: all of those shots remind me of going to a concert and seeing everyone with their phone in the air trying to record half the concert. If you’re going to watch your phone the whole time, why bother going?
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
MrsEdamame: I agree, and this is one of the reasons we asked our guests (via our website) to refrain form taking photos during the ceremony (and that we would provide them with pro photos). I had a specific realtive in mind. She ended up being unable to make it, but nobody else took photos. Probably helps it was a DW- by that time, people were used to their phones not working, so they didn’t bring them. Only exception is DH’s aunt, and she waited until the reception to take a photo for his grandma who could not attend.
Post # 14
MrsEdamame: completely love your post!!!!!!!!!!!
I think this is why brides and grooms are opting for unplugged weddings and I can completely see why……
I had numerous guests take photos at our wedding….. only one guest actually emailed me the photos (and they were terrible)…..
I am a huge fan of leaving photos up to the professionals…….
Post # 15
j_jaye: I couldn’t care less about blog-worthy photos. However what I do want is for the photographer who we chose from hundreds and paid a lot of money for to be able to get lovely, quality photos both of us and our guests at what for us is a very important day in our lives. I’m not too keen on the photos being washed out by another guest’s flash, or on having countless pictures where people’s faces are obscured by their phone or camera; oddly enough, I want to actually be able to see our guests’ faces in the photos.