Post # 1
Just curious for those that have been to a lot of weddings or already had your own, do guests give mostly cards or do they still bring presents as wedding gifts? I always thought a card with a check is what most people give for a wedding, but I have seen a lot of posts on here about guests bringing actual gifts to the wedding. Did you notice if a lot of guests bring gifts, or just a few?
Post # 3
We had a decent amount of people bringing gifts to the wedding or mailing them in advance. There were only a few people that came and brought only a gift card or cash.
Post # 4
I think on the East Coast it is almost exclusively cards/cash. In CA it’s mostly presents. My FI and his friends talk about the difference all the time!
Post # 5
That’s interesting! I would never want to lug around a wedding gift to a wedding so that’s why I always assumed cash is better.
Post # 6
You don’t bring the gift to the wedding-you send it before through the registry. No one gives cash where I live.
Post # 7
In Chicago, it’s all cards/cash at the wedding, gifts at the shower.
Post # 8
From what I know, mostly cards/cash are given at the reception while the gifts are mainly for the shower. But we’ll have a gift table with the card box and room for anyone that brings in an actual gift. We had some gifts sent to us in advance off of our registry already as a wedding present.
Post # 9
It was about 50/50 at our wedding. In the midwest it is perfectly acceptable for people to bring gifts to the wedding. There is usually an entire table set up where people set the presents.
Post # 10
We got most of our gifts in the mail/UPS prior to the wedding. We got a lot of cards at the wedding, and maybe 20% was boxed gifts from local people. We had our neighbors watch the house during the honeymoon and move things into the garage that came, but it was only about 4 boxes over the two weeks.
Post # 11
I’m from Chicago, and have to disagree. Many people sends gifts for the wedding as well (I’ve already received some and my invites were sent out less than a week ago). I think it depends on the individual guest’s preference. I’ve never heard of cash being given in advance, though. I agree with gifts at a wedding being a hassle. My preference would be to either have them sent ahead or receive cash at the wedding – gifts get stolen from weddings! It happened to a friend of mine!
Post # 12
I think it totally depends on your circle of family and friends, and the area you are from. I’ve only ever given physical gifts at weddings, but I rarely bring them to the wedding itself, usually mail before or after.