(Closed) Wedding guests in pastel?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Guests should not wear...
    Only white : (105 votes)
    93 %
    White, black, red : (3 votes)
    3 %
    White, black, red, any pastels that might be mistaken for white with a camera flash : (0 votes)
    Black and red okay, white and pastels not okay : (5 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    8464 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @musician32992:  I don’t care if someone wears a wedding dress to my wedding, so take my opinion with a grain of salt.  I think the only thing guests can’t wear is an all white, long dress.  I could be totally wrong though.

    Post # 4
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I checked only white, but I don’t even believe that. Personally, I don’t care what any other guest is wearing to my wedding. 

    By saying that can’t wear white, black, red or any pastels, what would you like them to wear? You’ve pretty much told them they can wear grey or other dark colors (but not black!) 

    Post # 6
    5423 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2012

    Wear what you’d like.

    Post # 7
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I would be ticked if someone wore white or ivory to my wedding, but if they wanted to wear blush, mint green, red, black, or a chicken suit, I’d be just fine.

    Post # 8
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    @musician32992:  The only rules about guest attire are 1) No bridal gowns to be worn by anyone other then the bride 2) It should match the general level of formality as expressed by the invitations. 

    When will this madness stop?  No black, no white, no red, no pastels……what’s next no primary colours? 


    Post # 9
    3420 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    As long as it doesnt look white with the flash…

    Post # 10
    342 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Let the bride stand out. Don’t wear white. Especially if you’re going to be in family pictures. Its silly in the grand scheme of life, but if she values it, let her have her day. I think pastels being banned is a little ridiculous. And all those others…


    I’m having “bridesdudes”. I can’t go around enforcing old etiquette laws with bridedudes in my party. hehe 🙂 .. so I’m a little biased toward untraditional…

    Post # 11
    3264 posts
    Sugar bee

    @musician32992:  Almost all etiquette experts have said that red and black are ok.  Emily Post, Judith Martin etc.

    Post # 13
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @musician32992:  I don’t really care, but I did makr only white

    Post # 14
    11343 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    @andielovesj:  Well, I don’t think Judith Martin (Miss Manners) does approve of wearing black to weddings, unless she has a more updated column on the topic.


    In the spirit of disclosure, I wore black to a number of weddings when I was younger, before I knew about this rule. However, what I didn’t know — until I found WB — is that red is also on the banned list.


    Post # 15
    1966 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Your dreaa doesn’t sound “bridal”. I think as long as its not any shade of white you’re fine. 

    Post # 16
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @musician32992:   It sounds like you should be fine – as long as you aren’t (a) immediate family of the bride and (b) it doesn’t flash as white in photos. 


    @andielovesj:  Emily post suggests a few more rules than just “not white” but only for members of the immediate family, etc. 

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