Post # 1
Bees, what’s your take on guests in light-colored but not white or off-white gowns? I’m planning on wearing a long flowy lavender gown, and while I cleared it with the bride, I realized some people might have a problem with something that even looks a tiny bit “bridal”. Thoughts?
Post # 3
@musician32992: I don’t care if someone wears a wedding dress to my wedding, so take my opinion with a grain of salt. I think the only thing guests can’t wear is an all white, long dress. I could be totally wrong though.
Post # 4
I checked only white, but I don’t even believe that. Personally, I don’t care what any other guest is wearing to my wedding.
By saying that can’t wear white, black, red or any pastels, what would you like them to wear? You’ve pretty much told them they can wear grey or other dark colors (but not black!)
Post # 5
@AmyFarrahFowler: Haha, I know! Apparently there are some outdated etiquette rules that forbid black and red as well! Black is a mourning color and red is too flashy, is what my grandma says.
Post # 7
I would be ticked if someone wore white or ivory to my wedding, but if they wanted to wear blush, mint green, red, black, or a chicken suit, I’d be just fine.
Post # 8
@musician32992: The only rules about guest attire are 1) No bridal gowns to be worn by anyone other then the bride 2) It should match the general level of formality as expressed by the invitations.
When will this madness stop? No black, no white, no red, no pastels……what’s next no primary colours?
Post # 9
As long as it doesnt look white with the flash…
Post # 10
Let the bride stand out. Don’t wear white. Especially if you’re going to be in family pictures. Its silly in the grand scheme of life, but if she values it, let her have her day. I think pastels being banned is a little ridiculous. And all those others…
I’m having “bridesdudes”. I can’t go around enforcing old etiquette laws with bridedudes in my party. hehe 🙂 .. so I’m a little biased toward untraditional…
Post # 11
@musician32992: Almost all etiquette experts have said that red and black are ok. Emily Post, Judith Martin etc.
Post # 12
@andielovesj: Shhh…don’t tell my Grandma she’s not an etiquette expert!
Post # 13
@musician32992: I don’t really care, but I did makr only white
Post # 14
@andielovesj: Well, I don’t think Judith Martin (Miss Manners) does approve of wearing black to weddings, unless she has a more updated column on the topic.
In the spirit of disclosure, I wore black to a number of weddings when I was younger, before I knew about this rule. However, what I didn’t know — until I found WB — is that red is also on the banned list.
Post # 15
Your dreaa doesn’t sound “bridal”. I think as long as its not any shade of white you’re fine.
Post # 16
@musician32992: It sounds like you should be fine – as long as you aren’t (a) immediate family of the bride and (b) it doesn’t flash as white in photos.
@andielovesj: Emily post suggests a few more rules than just “not white” but only for members of the immediate family, etc.