Post # 1
I’m not sure if this has been posted about on here. Starting about 6 months ago I had tried to contact one of my cousins for her address so that I could invite her to all things wedding and she never responded to any of them. Well now, 2 weeks before my wedding, she has sent me a message telling me she was excited to see me get married and hoping to have lots of fun! Mind you, I never sent her an ivitation one of my aunts had mentioned it to her I can only assume. Does anyone have any ideas how to tell her that since her neglect to contact me back after my many efforts we no longer can invite her and have no room for her? We had already finalized our counts and our venue cannot accomidate any more guests since it is a small place. Thanks you in advance for any advice!
Post # 2
Are you sure you really don’t have room for her? For just one person, I would think it might be ok. Caterers plan for a few extra guests to show up, they never make just enough food for your exact head count anyways.
I’m confused that you say your venue is too small when you were trying to invite her originally, so she must have been in some of your head counts?
Post # 3
I would ask her why is she just now contacting you..lets be real u probably just don’t want her there because of her neglect of contacting you earlier..if you already had your bridal shower and she didn’t attend then I would feel the same way too
Post # 4
I would tell her exactly what you told us: you already finalized your counts, and the venue cannot accommodate any more guests.
That reason is logical, and, more importantly, true. Nothing more needs to be said.
Post # 5
changuita02: Just tell her that you are sorry, but because she did not respond to your previous overtures, you did not have an address for her and were unable to extend an invitation. ‘If only you had contacted me earlier! Unfortunately, we are past the deadline date for the venue.”
Post # 6
@misslibra She has a family of three herself, (which I didn’t know about until very recently) her boyfriend and their child. So it wouldn’t just be one it would be 3. We are definetly at our max with the venue. We orginally counted her but when contact was never returned we went to our secondary list and that’s how we do not have any space for her. I did try contacting her with every possible way I could and even asked family if they had any contact than I did and no one did.
Post # 8
changuita02: I would tell her the exact way that you mentioned it here. The guestlist is closed and final numbers have been sent in to the planner and the caterer so there isn’t room for her. Leave it at that. You don’t owe any additional explanation.
We need to treat adults like adults. No hand-holding.