Wedding guests' white dresses?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do you care if a guest wear white to a wedding?
    Yes! It is disrespectful. : (207 votes)
    59 %
    No... everyone would still know who the bride is. : (123 votes)
    35 %
    Yay!! Christmas is coming! : (20 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
    3813 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    I do think it’s a little disrespectful just because it is a rule, but it happened at my wedding and it didn’t bother me at all.  I knew ahead of time about it though (DH’s sister wore a champagne dress, my own mom wore a a cream and gold dress…); it irked me when I found out but decided it wasn’t worth getting upset over at all.

    Post # 4
    489 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    I wouldn’t be fuming mad or anything (unless the guest wore a long white gown in an attempt to be rude), but I would be annoyed.  I’d just assume the guest was clueless.  

    Post # 5
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t be offended, just dumbfounded. Like WHYYYY??? You know the bride is wearing white, you couldn’t save it for tomorrow? It’s just inconsiderate.

    Post # 6
    1400 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I realize that there are some people who are clueless and don’t realize it’s rude, and it would annoy me ever so slightly, but really at the end of the day no one will be wearing a dress as fabulous as mine.

    I think it’s petty sad that your sister was so worried about being upstaged on her wedding day. I want my girls to look GOOD!

    Post # 7
    582 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My wedding day was so beautiful! It was over in the blink of my eyes. 

    I noticed a few of my women friends wore lovely white or cream colored dresses,  and they looked lovely.

    Trust me, everyone in that room knew I was the bride. 


    Post # 9
    5207 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  Personally I wouldn’t care AT ALL. It’s damn near impossible to upstage a bride unless she’s wearing sweat pants or something. However, it is a common rule of wedding etiquette that guests should not wear white. When in doubt, don’t do it, but if you know the bride is the kind of person who wouldn’t be offended then there’s no problem with it. 

    Post # 10
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I DO think it’s disrespectful, just for the fact of that it COULD upset the bride.

    But, if it’s a patterned outfit, or something with color, or short, or just not even very bridal at all, I think it’s pretty obvious that it’s not the bride.

    Post # 11
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s not something I would wear as a guest unless I was told there was a black and white color theme or something. But as a bride, I couldn’t care less. There is no way any of my 60 guests will not know I’m the bride. Plus, my reception dress is purple. 😉

    Post # 13
    1802 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I don’t think I’d get outwardly upset at another guest wearing white, but when I have attended weddings and saw someone wearing white I was definitely shocked in their choice of outfits. Unless a guest actually wears a wedding dress (just LOL’ed at the thought of that) I don’t see how it could upstage the bride. I just think it is distracting because that is a very well known rule. I just think in general that though you should look nice at weddings you should be playing it low key so that everyone is focused on the bride. The last wedding I went to I didn’t notice what anyone else was wearing because this girl was wearing this slutty club dress with her va-jay-jay hanging out the bottom and ten inch heels. 

    Post # 16
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    @tiff-tiff-tiff:  Hehehe … colors don’t bother me. What would, is if somebody shows up dressed way too casual, like washed off jeans and a rock band t-shirt like one of my FI’s cousin might. But again, it would bother me 5 seconds and I would forget about it. 

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