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Wedding hair trial on same day as friend's wedding?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
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  • poll: Is it okay to get double duty out of your hair/makeup trial at someone else's wedding?
    Sure, why not? : (86 votes)
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    No, that would be disrespectful to tbe bride/bridal party. : (4 votes)
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    Other, please explain below. : (1 votes)
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    FallBrideKate    October 3, 2009   CT

    This Saturday a childhood friend of mine is getting married. I am also getting married in October. Yeah us! I am not in the bridal party and am just a regular guest (albeit an excited one).

    I scheduled my hair and makeup trial for this Saturday morning figuring that it could serve double duty. My hairstylist and I were going to start with a half up hairstyle but then also see how it looks completely up. As far as makeup, I am a minimalist, so I don't expect to be leaving the salon looking "overly done".

    I definately do not want to compete with the bride or bridal party for that matter by showing up with my hair all done and fancy. I am going to attempt to attach a picture of the style I was going to ask the stylist to try.

    Is it okay to get double duty out of your hair/makeup trial at someone else's wedding?

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    bruschetta    August 29, 2009   Philadelphia

    Is the wedding very informal?  That's the only thing that would cause concern for me.  But if it's a semiformal or formal affair, as long as you're not wearing white :) I don't think you have much to worry about!

     
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    cfitz621    July 17, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I don't think it's a big deal at all.  It's not like you're trying to get it done with the bridal party or anything like that. 

    Plus, what a great way to figure out if the style lasts the whole night, how the make-up does, etc.  I think it's a great idea. 

     
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    nybride09    9/19/09   New York, NY

    i think it's a great idea, assuming your weddings are the same formality or hers is not less formal than yours. depending on what you wear, you can tone things down if you're worried about overshadowing the bride.

     
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    beffielou       NC- Triad Area

    Sure.  I agree with everyone else about keeping certain things in mind, but I can't see why not.  One little thing.... if it were me, I probably wouldn't mention it to the other guests (not that there's anything wrong, but you know how some people love to make drama).  I would just leave them thinking I look fabulous of my own accord.  :D Good luck! 

     
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    bellenga    July 31, 2010   Georgia

    I think it's great.  Get the biggest bang for your buck! Or bangs (hairdo) if you got em!!! lol! 

     
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    FutureFisher    March 13, 2010   Gresham, WI

    I don't think you'd be offending anyone, you'd just have a great do.

     
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    Mrs. DG    July 18, 2009   Seattle/Tahoe

    I did this in May.  I think it is really nice to look well-polished for a friend's wedding and this will be appreciated not looked down upon.

     
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    yohagopelo    5/1/2010   Brooklyn, NY

    No shame in looking fabulous at someone else's gig.

     
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    Lorienne    January 1, 2016   Los Angeles, CA

    I don't see any problem there, get (more) goregous and have fun at your friend's wedding!   Smile

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    I had those exact same photos as my inspiration pics!!!  the same ones!!!! YES! Here's what I ended up with and you can find more in my recaps.

    I was picture a big, curly updo and at that I would say no. But, this is a relatively classy hairstyle and I think it would look wonderful with a cocktail dress. Sans tiara, perhaps "Tongue. As long as you don't show up super formal and it's really casual, and even then, it's simply an "out of place" thing...i wouldn't wear a gown to a casual wedding.

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    futuremrslerman    June 6, 2009  

    I had the exact same pics too, and here's how mine ended up.  We decided to play on my own curls, so it's a little curlier than the pics, but the idea is the same.

    Anyway, go for it! Hair trials are expensive, why not put it to good use!

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    FallBrideKate    October 3, 2009   CT

    Thanks ladies.  And ejs4y8 and Mrs. Lerman your hair styles are gorgeous.  I am stealing your pictures for my inspiration folder. 

     
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    Charm bracelet    July 24, 2010   Placentia, CA

    I love getting dolled up for weddings.  I don't think it should be a problem.  Post a picture for us once you get it done so we can see how it went.

     
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    Ember78    December 15, 2012  

    If you are sure you would have time, then go for it. The style you chose doesn't compete with the bride or her attendants.

     
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    Miss Sapphire    December 2009   Seattle

    Totally!  I would do it.  And no one will probably notice anyhoo!

     
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    LittleBear    June 28, 2009   Chicago/beach wedding in NC

    I think its fine! I do my hair and makeup for weddings more than I do on a normal day in the office or even on date night with my husband! And I think a PP way right on... what a great way to test out how it lasts for the night!

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    @FallBrideKate, I'll let you know where our photographer's site is if you want to stalk for better ones that show more angles =]

    Or i'll just send you pictures that aren't teeny tiny thumbnals =]

     
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    mdarrah    4/4/09   Los Angeles, CA

    If your up-do is too formal for your friends wedding, then do the trial, and after you are happy with the hair, have her take it down a bit to make it more low-key. Same thing if the make up is too much for her wedding style. Otherwise - two birds with one stone - woohoo!

     
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    Jessie516    May 16, 2009   Ann Arbor, MI

    I think this is totally okay, as long as the wedding isn't an informal event.  I think it's a great way to get use out of your trial.  You can put it to the test and really see how the hair/makeup will stand up in a real life situation! 

     
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    Johnsbride09    7/3/2009   Northern Virginia

    The Taylor one was one of my inspiration pics, too!  Mine turned out a bit too formal for someone else's wedding... maybe you could leave the makeup and let the hair down? (Pics from early in the day and late in the day)

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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    i voted before i saw the pix, that isn't an uber formal updo, so that isn't too big of a problem i don't think. i think it will be lovely.

     
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    D.Marie    April 24, 2010   Philadelphia, PA

    I love the Taylor one...when my hair was long I was going to use that...its so cute and I dont think it would be a problem...ppl get dressed up for weddings...I wish some ppl that are coming to mine would look this nice! LOL!

     
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    heathaah    September 2009  

    I agree it is fine, as long as the wedding is formal enough.

     
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    Mrs. Arboretum    10/10/10   Connecticut

    OMG! Go for it! You may as well get some use out of that beautiful updo and make-up. Would you rather get all gussied up and go home to do laundry??? :o)

     
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    whitesonnet    June 26, 2010   Detroit, MI

    I say that if your think your hair might be too fancy by the time you go to the wedding, you can always take it down.

     
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    scissors    June 19, 2010   Atlanta, Ga

    I think you should go for it. It'd be a good test run for staying power. :)

     
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    I was going to say don't do it, but you said you're not in the bridal party, so I don't think that's a problem.  Go for it and hope that your stylist/MUA does really good!

     
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    msbuttons    May 30, 2010   Palm Harbor, FL

    I know its late at this point, but hey, if your wedding has the same level of "formalness" as your friends', then it shouldn't be a problem!

     
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    dereksbride2b    10/23/09   Denver

    Go for it!

     
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    tessabella76    September 12, 2009   Ohio

    Sounds like a good idea to me.

     
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    FallBrideKate    October 3, 2009   CT

    Just wanted to give everyone an update.  The hair styling was great but honestly, no one even noticed.  My friend and her now husband are such a great couple, who are so in love, my hair didn't even hit the radar, which is exactly as it should be!   Thank you for all of the great feedback.  

    And the style lasted all night, so I'm going to do it for my wedding.

     
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    nank    August 28, 2010   live in Utah, wedding in MA

    yay!  glad it worked out.

     
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    cheerful    September 2009 - eloped  

    Great to hear that it turned out well and you now have your stylist for your wedding day!

     
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    EngineerBride    October 31, 2009   Guilderland, NY

    Glad things worked out.  I didn't see a problem pulling double duty.  It's fun to get dressed up for weddings.

     

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