(Closed) Wedding hell….help please!!!

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

((HUGS)) no help… other than can you buy the tutus for the girls as a gift to them? i think it’s a darling idea.  and your cousin may be stressed or something?  everyone knows that ALL GIRLS would love to play dressup in tutus!! well maybe not all girls, but i bet she’d have a friend that would love it lol!

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

here are some compromises…a little bit dress, a little bit tutu…

defintiely check http://www.tutugirl.com

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

offer to buy the tutu, if she still says no then forget it and just use your other cousin. shes trying ot throw her weight around to get her way, but its your wedding

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just buy the tutu’s and call it a day. People need to be careful when they make threats they don’t intend to go through with.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Ok…breathe. I know it’s difficult to try and please everyone and ultimately you won’t because you just can’t. People will always have their issues. If you can afford it, maybe you can offer to pay for the tutu. That way your aunt isn’t wasting her money and your girls will be in tutus.

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I was chiming in to say buy the tu-tu yourself.

Also, I sympathize. I don’t know what it is about weddings, but I’m finding that a lot of people/guests think they can just throw their weight around. I went through it last week and I am sure it will crop up again.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

That’s terrible! Just remember that this is all on her… $20 is completely reasonable for a flower girl outfit, even if she *won’t* ever wear it again. Which she probably would, if only for playing dress-up! Your aunt is being a crazy drama queen. Of course, it’s not really *about* the $20 – it’s about your aunt wanting to control your wedding. As a final peace-keeping gesture, I might call her and say that if she really has a problem with *buying* the tutu, you’re happy to give it to cousin M as a gift. If the problem is that your flower girls are wearing tutus, though, cousin M is welcome to attend as a guest, wearing whatever your aunt likes.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m with Ashleyjane on this one, just offer to buy the tutu and if the aunt still says no, the you should just have the one flower girl.  Don’t let her push you around!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

If you are crafty you might want want to consider making the tutus yourself. I have made several. They are cheap and easy to make.

If you don’t want to make it maybe you can offer to buy the girl’s tutus since they are only $20?

Hope this works out for you and the flower girls’ mom.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If you’re on a budget (which would make two $20 tutus even more to handle) you could DIY them and gift the tutus. I’ve seen alot of cute DIY ones that would save both of you money!

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would just buy the tutus for them and call it a day. 

If it makes you feel any better, one of my BMs (my cousin) is refusing to pick any of the EIGHT dresses I gave the girls as choices to wear.  She insists she doesn’t like any of them and wants to wear something different.  Ugh.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Like other bees have said, I would just buy the tutus for them.

My flower girl’s mother is also giving me a hard time about her dress, as if I was purposely trying to put her in something ugly or unflattering.

Post # 16
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Why do people have to be so difficult?  Its a totally adorable idea, but even if she didn’t like it- put the dang kid in the $20 tutu for a couple of hours!  Yeesh!

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