Post # 1
So I am sure everyone has dealt with this is some way, shape, or form. My story is a long, frustrating one, but basically it comes down to this: my fiance and I wanted many things in our ceremony, all of which were denyed. I had hopped to have a meaningful, holy, personal and super awesome wedding ceremony and now I will be having a ceremony that hardly resembles what i hopped for. How do you all deal with the disappointment when realizing you won’t be able to do something for your wedding that you had really hopped for?
Post # 3
Why were they denied? I can’t give much advice without knowing. Try to focus on the positives though…being married. Maybe just elope if that’s an option, and pick the most important things and have them in your smaller wedding. It sounds like you want to take control over your wedding that’s been taken from you. Try to focus on the positives about your wedding otherwise…at least you’re marrying someone you care about. I’m sorry though.
Post # 4
@glittermoon: Getting married in a month from today. So i think it’s a bit late. Plus i woudln’t elope anyways. The reasons we were denyed are completely lost to me. The church we are at just keeps saying “this is not a renal venue” and “we want to make sure that your wedding is a worship service” and other random stuff that like that makes no sense. But that’s not important. I am not wondering what to do to get to do those things. I am wondering how all brides deal with the disappointments involved with weddings.
Post # 5
May I ask what type of church you are getting married at? I’m getting married in the Catholic chruch and they are very strict on what you can and cannot do. My chruch specifically says no unity candle (or anything like that), no receiving line, no guest book, no throwing rice or seeds or blowing bubbles when you exit, limits the number in the bridal party, no aisle runners, and a few other things that are escaping me. We do get to pick through a few choices of pre-selected readings and prayers, but that’s about all the personalization we get. Is it ideal? Not really. But it’s more important to me to get married in the Catholic church and in the church that I grew up attending then to get all of those little extras. It’s all about perspective.
As far as dealing with disappointments, you deal pretty much the same way you do with any other disappointments in life. You’ll never get everything you want, you just have to make the most of what you have. Remember that you are getting married and that your friends and family will all be there to help you celebrate. Those are the most important things.