Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
It’s funny – my FH has said clearly and certainly that he doesn’t want any birdcages at our wedding. None at all.
His reasoning? It implies that the marriage is all about restraining or imprisoning people. You can tell he’s a literature student, always looking for deeper meaning in objects! And I think it’s sweet of him that he doesn’t want people to think that our wedding is a ‘cage’, even if most people wouldn’t even clock that (I didn’t!).
Of course this means if I see lovely ideas involving birdcages, I have to remind myself that I can’t have them because it’s the one thing he’s specifically said he doesn’t want.
Has anyone else’s FI vetoed anything? Did they say why? I’d love to hear some stories!
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada
Confetti/bubbles/rose petals – basically rather surprisingly he is completely against having any of these with the explination that he does not want anything thrown at him. I love the way it looks in pictures but I have accepted that it’s not going to happen.. I guess it isn’t the most important thing for a wedding right?
Post # 4
I wanted to do a DW wedding. Just the 2 of us somewhere warm and it would be super romantic. He put a giant kabosh on that. So now we will be doing a small wedding at a restaurant somewhere. Totally not what I wanted but I guess at the end of the day we will be married 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
My FI has vetoed a menu item. Our caterer has “mini reubens” on the list for passed hor doeurves, and FI said, “They can’t serve those.”
The reason? My ex boyfriends name is Reuben. And he doesn’t want his name said by the waitsatff over and over.
I personally would not have cared (or even thought) about this, as we’ve been broken up almost seven years now (which is longer than we were together). But since FI mentioned it, I do see his point. Many of our guests knew him too. And he was my only other serious relationship.
Even still, his one veto made me chuckle. I didn’t think he was so sensitive!
Post # 7
Garter toss and eloping! I just want to say F it and go elope somewhere but he wants to do it all traditionally. He also hates the garter toss thing. Absolutely fine with me.
Post # 8
@HisBrownEyedGirl: This is what I wanted too! I wanted to go to Bermuda but invite our immediate family and closest friends and he was not a fan. He’s the one who wanted a big wedding and all in all, I have to say he was right (even though it pains me to say that) and I am happy we’ll be having a big party with ALL our family and friends.
Post # 9
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
Mine vetoes (or tries to) anything he doesn’t see as necessary. Which I pointed out means everything but the marriage license, but we’re doing a full-on wedding thing so…. The one that surprised me the most is he is adamant about not having anyone read anything other than our officiant. I suggested IE his dad or another friend, but he says it makes it too boring when you have to watch people get up and sit back down and rustle paper around and stuff. Also first look was out from the beginning. He doesn’t want to know anything about my dress. He is not very traditional about anything else, but absolutely wants nothing to do with anything about my dress before the wedding. Boys are so weird sometimes. 🙂
Post # 10
Edible favors. For some reason he has it in his head that they are “cheap” even if I get the fanciest chocolate/food in the world. I think it’s so ridiculous and that edible favors are actually preferred by most guests. It’s not like I’m going to throw a few hard candies in some netting either, I would pick something pretty nice.
And he is dead set on not having them, nothing will sway him. He’s been pretty easygoing about everything else, so I guess I will give in and let him pick out some sort of useless chotchkie.
And I have to have favors -otherwise I would just skip it. My father (of all people! he’s not giving a single piece of advice on anything else wedding related) is insisting and he’ll pay for them – so whatever.
Post # 11
A winter wedding. I wanted one so badly because the pictures are always so beautiful and it would be very different than any other wedding that my guests had been too. But FI was like “Fantastagirl, baby, 1. Did you forget that you hate the winter? and 2. It could blizzard at any second and people could get in accidents driving to the venue” Well fine if he had to get all logical and realistic.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
@MrsGo: We were warned that rose petals as confetti can actually stain dresses if they get caught up in the fabric, particularly if it’s a damp day (which, it’s the UK, like 90% of our days are damp)! So that put the kibosh on that!
@MrsWBS: Haha, the garter toss isn’t really a thing over here, but I have to say I’m glad it’s not! Not sure I’d want anyone diving under my skirt in front of everyone, even if it is my new hubby!
@soontobeMrsBoo: My FH doesn’t want to know about my dress either! Well, he said he didn’t, but then when I came back from my first shopping trip, he asked me all about the dresses I tried on!
@Fantastagirl: Haha, a winter wedding would be so pretty, if I could guarantee snow! Here it’d just rain and fog and be damp and cold and miserable!
Post # 13
@chronicwhimsy: haha yeah I have no issue with him. He hates the idea. It’s definitely awkward for everyone involved!
Post # 14
-Having a 50 person wedding. He wanted 100+. We ended up with 76.
-Cereony outside. He hates bugs, heat, weather. We got married indoors and it poured all evening.
-Nacho bar. We had a chocolate/gourmet treats display instead.
Post # 15
@Reeniero: lol idk why but this is hilarious to me
Post # 16
I really wanted to to table numbers that were years in our life and pictures of us a kids ie “1995” pictures of our first day of kindgardeten “2005” pictures when we met. FI reasoning is that people will be looking at us all night, they shouldn’t have to stare at us at their tables too. *sigh*