Post # 1
I am sorry, I know I’m asking a lot here because I have NO idea how to begin. Wedding is in 13 days. We are having a simple dinner reception at a restaurant. There are 27 people (including me and Fiance and kids). I think the restaurant is going to have 4 tables that seat 8 each. (restaurant is in Iowa, we’re in Texas)…
Where do I even begin figuring out where to seat people?
We have me, Fiance, and our 3 kids who make up the “wedding party”. Then there’s my mom, my SIL (can’t seat those two together, they don’t get along). Then my FI’s 2 aunts who are traveling together. They won’t know anyone else, besides me, Fiance, and kids.
My BFFs kids (19 and 14) and the 19 year old’s boyfriend. These kids and my kids are like cousins/siblings. They know my mom and my SIL.
My Fiance has a couple guests who live in Iowa and were her high school friends and they are coming together, and they have kids too. They won’t know anyone but Fiance and each other.
We have a group from Texas driving up together (six of them). They don’t know anyone else either aside from me, Fiance, and our kids.
No clue. Just no clue.
Post # 3
Kay so the very first thing you need to do is find out exactly how many tables and chairs are being reserved for you. That way you can know how many per table.
Now this is only a suggestion but this is what I would do in your situation and hopefully this helps.
if you’re going with the 8 people per 4 tables, I would suggest just cutting down the settings to 7 for 3 tables, and 6 for one table so that way there won’t be any gaps (with 27 guests)
Then heres how I would divide the guests:
Table 1: Guests from texas (table of six)
Table 2: Kids table (your kids & your BFF’s kids)
Table 3: Your SIL, BFF
Table 4: Your Mom, FI’s Aunts
Now the only people left are your guests from Iowa and your Fiance and yourself, and so you can decide who YOU and your Fiance would like to sit with more (mom and aunts or SIL and BFF) and then fill in the rest of seats with your Iowa guests.
Post # 4
As pp alluded to, one thing that REALLY helped me was telling the venue to set up 1 more table than we really needed…that way, I don’t have to get 8 people at a table, and I have the luxury of a couple of 6 person tables. I tried to keep a common theme going at tables…ie nurses from different places who don’t know each other are at the same table because I figure they can always talk about work and tried to avoid politically charged tables. Beyond that, you just do what you can and then let it go. People will be fine.
Post # 5
@Koala Bear: & @nmsoonerbride: Thanks to you both, it helps me a lot just to have SOME idea where to start!
I am pretty sure the table thing is up to me. We’re having the reception in a private party room at the restaurant so I think they’ll set it up how I want it. She originally told me it would be either 8 person tables or 12 person tables. So I’ve called her but until I hear back I will go on the assumption that I can have four 8 person tables then spread people out accordingly.
Just to clarify though, my BFF is not coming. 🙁 Long story. But her kids are.
Oh I do have more questions though that I just thought of; with only 4 tables, do i need to number them or label them or whatever? I have individual place cards. Can I just put the names on the placecards and people will figure it out, without me indicating somehow that they are at table one or three or whatever?
Post # 6
I think just place cards are fine… it’s not like it’s an enormous room… they’ll find they’re own spot pretty quick, I think.
Post # 7
@mak418: Oh I hope so… because I am one of those that couldn’t “just” do table numbers, it would have to be awesome and themed or something lol.