Wedding in 2 weeks and I am dreading it!! **Bridesmaid Vent**

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
715 posts
Busy bee

Sorry OP. 

That doesn’t seem nice of her. 

You’re not her “prop” for nice pics…

please make sure you and your baby are well & don’t let her stress you out additionally. 

take a calm moment to talk to her – make her see your point of view. 

all the best for the upcoming months of your pregnancy!

Post # 4
439 posts
Helper bee


If her hairdresser can’t style shoulder length hair then she should really hire a different hairdresser.  I would never get extensions because someone else wanted me to.  Don’t feel bad at all.  Go to the wedding with your short hair and pregnant belly and have fun.  If she has a problem with it then tell her to shove it.

Post # 5
7207 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MeeShell:  she wants you to stand so you dont look pregnant? Sorry bridezilla much. I’d tell her extensions arent in the buget, point blank, period. And suggest you attending as a guest if that would be less stress for her. 


Post # 6
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@bklynbridetobe:  all of this. Nice guys finish last. Dont let her dictate all these ridiculous things to you.

Post # 7
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I would try to be nice but don’t go too far out of your way to change anything. I mean I’d stand the way she asked but wouldn’t pay to get extensions. Like a pp said, you’re not her prop. If she’s usually a good friend I’d guess she’s just feeling really stressed and being insensitive. Best of luck! 

Post # 8
1030 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If she’s demanding you have hair extensions then she should be paying! My sister has chin length hair and they still managed to put it up in a beautiful style at my wedding. 


Post # 9
2302 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

when she said ‘stand this way so you don’t look pregnant’ i would have said ‘but i am pregnant, i’m not going to pretend not to be’. and i would have texted back about the hair, ‘don’t worry, i’m happy to style my own hair, do you have a preference for straight or curly?’


honestly. this girl is so rude. 

Post # 10
7281 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

It sounds like she may be experiencing a bit of bride meltdown. As her best friend, do her a huge favor and have a heart to heart with her. Invite her to your place for tea and girl talk, give her a big long hug, and gently remind her that a wedding is about 2 people hoining together in marriage- everything else is just a party that doesn’t really matter. She needs a bit of perspective, and you are in a great position to help her get that perspective. As a bonus, getting the right perspective on the situation will probably help her simmer the f#ck down about your bridesmaid “look”. Because, let’s be honest, you are who you are and she should love you for that. You are not her Barbie doll.

Post # 11
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@MeeShell:  My MoH will be 5 months pregnant at my wedding and she is also planning on cutting her hair (she grew it out for her wedding which was last month).

I’m just so happy to have her be there for me, I am not at all concerned about if she will look pregnant in my pictures. My biggest concern has been finding a dress that will work for her and not be uncomfortable!

Seems a bit unreasonable to me, I would want to have a conversation with her to find out what she really wants. Not sure if she is getting stressed from anyone else around her.

Post # 13
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MeeShell:  What a demanding b!tch! That’s so not cool. You’re not her barbie doll. If you’re pal, she can suck it. If your hair is short, well I have seen some beautiful dos on short hair. Fake nails? $10 pack from *checks where you’re from and realises not Aus* the supermarket. Same with false lashes. And she should be paying if she’s gonna be demanding you look a certain way. My BMs – I’m asking them to pay for hair and makeup…but only if they want it done. If they wanna DIY, all good by me 🙂 I’m going to paint their nails in my fancy schmancy shellac stuff. Your friend is being unreasonable, and no wedding gift etc is rude 🙁

Post # 14
1136 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@MeeShell:  God I hate seeing all these stories of brides using their bridesmaids just for show! It’s horrendous! I have no requests for my bridesmaids other than they all wear black. Literally everything else is up to them, I’m just so excited to have them to share the lead up and the bid day with!

The fact that she’s demanding you pay for all of those things is rediculous, if she doesn’t want to pay for you she can’t force you to do it! You’re not a prop! If it’s truly making you unhappy you should speak to her about stepping down. Yes your wedding day is a special time, but it does NOT give you a free ticket to act like a B*** to everyone around you!

Post # 15
1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@MeeShell:  Geez, I don’t understand why some brides care so much about what their bridesmaids look like or expecting them to go to all these appointments with them. All I’m asking my bridal party to do is get their dresses. That’s it. And I certainly wouldn’t care if one of them was pregnant. Really, who cares! And I don’t expect any of them to come along for fittings, dress shopping, or whatever else. Their lives don’t revolve around me, just cause I’m getting married and they are in my bridal party. 

I’m sorry you have to go through this. As long as you show up to the rehearsal and wedding, you have DONE YOUR PART. If she wants long locks, then SHE can buy YOU the extensions for HER wedding. If she doesn’t, oh well, your hair wil be short in her pics. Gasp!

Post # 16
472 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@MeeShell:  I’ll admit I asked my girls to buy their dresses and pay for their hair to be done by the girl coming to our getting ready site. In all the weddings I’ve been in, personally I find it more enjoyable, if funds allow, to pay someone to do your hair. then you dont stress about it and its more enjoyable.  One of my BM really can’t afford it, and I’m paying for it all.  The others i’m paying for 50% of it.

Other than that, I have someone coming to my makeup and that’s up to them. Everything else is completely up to them. I’m buying them breakfast in the morning, some of them are staying the night with me, I’m paying for all tipping, I bought them gifts (spend about $50/person ((5 ppl)) ).

You friend def has a case of the bridezillas…. I’d DEF say no to the extentions. that stuff is expensive! I looked into it for my wedding because i wanted my hair long, but not for that much lol. Lash extentions? Fake lashes work amazing for one or two days. Tan? Personal choice, she shouldn’t be making you. Manicure ? More than likely your hands wont have a closeup.  The only thing I’d ask is no conflicting nail polish colors and no chiped nails (if the color is other than a neutral).

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