Post # 1
Attention all December brides!
What date are you picking in December?
Do you think December 20th is to close to christmas?
Are you getting positive or negative feedback for having a December wedding, and how do you deal with the negative?
Me and my fiance got engaged Dec.20th 2009. We are looking at a 2014 wedding. I would love to get married on December 20th 2014. But am wondering if it is to close to christmas. The 20th is a saturday, christmas would be the following thursday. Christmas is my all time favorite time of the year, and i personally dont think it is to close but was wondering what others thought.
Post # 3
i’m not getting married in december, but i do know that my family goes on vacation every year for christmas. my parents go visit my sister, and my brother goes to visit his wife’s family for the holidays. i feel like a lot of other people probably do the same thing. you might be able to keep people from going on their vacations or have them leave a little later if you send STD’s out early…. but i don’t know, christmas is a special time for people to spend with their families. are you set on having a big wedding where everyone is able to come? it sounds bad to say, but a that could be a good way to keep the guest list down.
Post # 4
@ artbee Thank you for your response. Usually we go to my dads side of the family’s christmas on christmas eve, and then do immediate family christmas on christmas dad. My moms side of the family is usually on boxing day and then we usually travel to montreal between dec. 27th to New years to celebrate the holidays with my fiances family. Im thinking that Dec, 20th might be close enough that out of towners, will be able to stay for for the christmas holidays if they so wish. And as bad as it sounds, if guests couldnt come due to holidays, i think your right, atleast the guest list may come down then.
Post # 5
My fiance and I are getting married December 18, 2010. I love that I’m having a Dec. wedding. BUT my family that lives in FL isn’t happy about this decision. They’ve decided not to attend because of the cold weather. It’s fine by me though.
Post # 6
i am also having a december wedding, december 30th and yes a smaller guest list was one of the reasons. we live in louisiana though and the weather is usually 65 degrees or so so we aren’t worried about the weather unless we have another freak snow (rolling eyes)…
Post # 7
I think the concern with December is that people often have other plans. You’re planning so far in advance though that people will know and will probably enjoy the trip for the wedding.
We’re getting married on New Year’s Eve and plan to get people to travel by promising a rockin’ party after the ceremony. 🙂
Post # 8
Thank you all for your responses. We’re having a big wedding (around 300 people), but thankfully the only people that usually go on holidays are my fiances parents and he said that they would deffinately re-arrange their trips so they could come. Im thinking of sending out save-the dates a year or so before the date…so they will have lots of time to book it off etc.
Post # 9
@crebre80 I know this sounds bad, but are you at all concerned that your guests wont have the money to come or give to you after christmas?
Post # 10
Our wedding is December 11, two weeks exactly before Xmas. We mailed out our STD already just to let everyone know it is this December. Now they have a year to plan vacations. We are in PA. My family is all in the MidWest.
Post # 11
We did a Dec 19th wedding, and there was a bit of backlash, but most people were able to come. We just figured that we were extending the holidays for everybody!
Post # 12
Our wedding was December 6, 2009, which was just over a week after Thanksgiving this year. We did have a lower turnout than anticipated (invited 55, got 30), and I did hear from a couple of people that it was too much to travel in between Thanksgiving and Christmas. That being said, we had our closest friends and family there, and it was a beautiful day. I think it’s definitely reasonable to expect a lower turnout for a December wedding.
Post # 13
You’re going to receive negative feedback from different people no matter what date you choose, whether it’s December or June so choose what you want!!! The date was most important to us so it didn’t matter for us…we would have done it had it been Justice of the Peace or having an actual wedding.
By The Way, I really think keeping the date is very cute.
Post # 14
We got engaged Dec 4th 2009 and are having our ceremony Dec 4th 2010! This really wasn’t planned this way, but i am happy it worked out like that! Most of our family is in Chicago or Pennsylvania and our wedding will be in Key West. We have had a lot of positive feed back on our December wedding because they are all looking forward to getting some sunshine that time of year. We also found that the first 2 weeks in December are “off season” and we were able to get better rates between Thanksgiving and Christmas because most people don’t travel then!
Post # 15
We got married in December and like a PP said a lot of family (cousins) couldn’t come because that’s when they go on vacation.
Post # 16
We are also getting married Dec. 4th. Both of our families are from GA and so turn out that time of year wasnt a big issues for us. We are probably going to send out Save-The-Date Cards in March or April so our out of town guest can plan. I wouldn’t worry about people coming or not for your Dec wedding. It’s a beautiful time of year and weddings are a great time to see family and bonus that it’s around the holidays. Do what ever works best for you and your fiance. It’s the only day that is truly about you two. Thats what we decided when we picked our date. The people you want to be there will find a way to make it work.