Wedding in June…never sent Thank You cards.

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@SoCalLove:  I’d still do it. Better than people think you are tardy than just totally rude to never send them! We received one a year after the wedding recently and it was not even a handwritten personalised one, just a photo of them at the wedding with some generic typing on it – lol. Not sure what their excuse was.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You should definitely still send them.

I don’t know about etiquette stating you have a year to send thank-yous, but we were in the same boat as you.  Married in June, moved to a different country, life got busy, we didn’t get our photos back until late November, but by February I had finally sent them out. I didn’t really bother explaining, everyone who came to the wedding knew we were busy.

As the saying goes, better late than never!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Definitely send them – but i would not inlcude anything about being insanely busy as it might come across as an excuse 🙂

 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yes.  Still send them. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Yes, still send them. Other people have busy lives too but they took the time to get you a gift/card/money, so take the time to say thanks. 

As for wording for cash gifts something along the lines of “Thank you so much for your generous gift! The money you gave us was very helpful and because of your gift we were able to…..” 

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@SoCalLove:  I personally had no idea until I joined WB two years ago that brides do NOT have up to a year to send T/Y notes.  So, even though this very popular belief technically is incorrect, many people are still operating under that impression. You definitely should still send your  notes, even if it ends up having to take several more weeks or months until you are able to finally finish all of them. 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I wouldn’t say … thank you for your gift of money…

I’d say something like, I’m so sorry to be getting this thank you note out so late, but, as you know we moved across the country.  Your considerate gift will be used to help purchase our new home.  

We got a lot of GC and money and I just said thank you for contribution to updating the house we bought that is older than we are.  

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

We told every person we put the money towards the downpayment on a house. (If you have a house, you could say furniture/decorating/car/whatever)

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@SoCalLove:  yes.  please take the time to send a thank you.  your guests took the time to come to your wedding so it’s the least you can do.  just sit down and write minimum 10 a day until you are done.  have your dh write ones to his family and friends at the same time.

do not mention anything about being too busy to write one, that’s just an excuse.

as for the monetary gifts, just thank them for their generous gift and that you will be using it for “such and such” in your new house.

the thank yous don’t have to be too long.  just a few lines thanking them for sharing your special day with you, thanking them for the give (mention what it was) and how you look forward to using it or something.

google wedding thank you examples if you get stuck.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@SoCalLove:  I would still write them and explain the move and the house and BONUS you can tell all money gift givers thats what their money went to! 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would still write them.

My wedding on at the end of July & I didn’t send the thank-yous until mid-November. I felt bad about it taking so long, but I knew people really appreciated it late rather than never.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

You should definitely still send them. I’m sure people understand life is hectic, but I’d rather receive a thank you after 6 or 7 months than never

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yes send them ASAP. no don’t provide an explanation, those that know you know what you’re up to or can ask. Make sure you hand write a message especially this late. 

 

My BFF sent hers the week before her one year anniversary. Now THATS a thank you faux pas lol

ETA: on how to thank for money, I said thank you for your generous gift, we have set it aside to save up for x large purchase (or whatever nice thing you did or will do with it)

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