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    Circus Peanut    October 9, 2010  

    This isn't really that "Emotional", but I wasn't sure where else to put it!

    For the last two weeks (right around the time we got into that 'Two months to go!' timeframe) I cannot focus on work. Messages sit in my inbox, things pile up on my to do list - all the while I can't bring myself to focus on them, because all I really want to do is put together the OOT bags!

    I am letting things pile up and I know I shouldn't, but I have lost all interest in dealing with paperwork and mundane task right now. I'm like a kid trying to do homework the week of Christmas. I feel so guilty, argh!

    Does anybody else have wedding related ADHD? Will it clear up after the honeymoon?

     
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    hergreenapples    October 23, 2010   Ontario, Canada

    I totally have this same problem (case in point - am on The Bee rather than clearing out my inbox!). I try to work on wedding stuff in the evening so that I can focus on work stuff during the day, but as the wedding draws closer it's definitely getting more difficult.

    I don't have any solutions, but I can definitely empathize!

     
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    OurWedding    August 13, 2011   South Carolina

    I have the same problem, and I'm not even near my wedding date.

     
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    vanilla frosting    September 23, 2011   Philadelphia, PA

    Haha... I have a tabbed browser.  I always have the Bee up in one and my work (luckily online) up on the other.  I bounce back and forth- one work item checked off the to-do list, check weddingbee.  I am sooo bad.

     
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    Scottielass    July 3, 2011   Westerville, OH

    So there with you, but my wedding is next year!!  I am trying to get the big book together first.  And then just create a checklist for each month.  I am so scared of getting to May, and nothing is done.

     
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    bakerella    September 11, 2010   Toronto, ON

    I'm the SAME way. I was on a conference call a while back and someone asked me for my input at the end and I honestly had very little clue as to what had happened. Whoopsies. Btw, the answer "You know, I think I need to digest this all for a few minutes" works ;)

     
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    qtcork    October 8, 2010   Chicago

    At work right now haha :). I was especialy bad I would say the first two months of engagement. Our engagement is shy of 6 months so the first two months there was a lot to do. I swore up and down I would not be 'one of those girls" who plays online all day and doesnt work. Mainly just bc a girl got pretty much fired from doing that 3 weeks before our engagement. It always annoyed me how much she didnt work. I think there is an extreme version and then there is plain ol excitement. Chances are if you are realizing it you prob have it under control. If there was no guilt then you prob would be a lot worse than you are. Enjoy this time it only happens once!

     
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    PaperCrane       Married!

    Amen :-/ 10 days and then maybe I can get back to normal life. 

     
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    ldyparadox99    September 10, 2010   Netherlands

    My wedding ADHD is even worse.  I have 2 more driving lessons and my pratical exam next week to get my dutch drivers license and I keep making stupid mistakes that I know I'll get failed for.  Especially since the dutch examiners are super hard on Americans.  Sigh.

    I will focus, I will focus, I will focus.

    Oh yea, and my inbox at work is a mess. Especially since I'm in charge of several large projects that HAVE to be ready to roll when I get back from holiday at the end of September.  So they HAVE to be done by the time I leave at noon on the 1st.  Sigh.

    Really doesn't help my folks are flying in next weekend.

     
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    KIKI82    October 30, 2010   SoCal

    You are singing my tune!!!! And I'm addicted to this site!!!

     
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    Habibah14    October 24, 2010   Fairfield County, Connecticut

    TOTALLY. I too keep the hive up all day on a tabbed window. I have been able to complete my menu cards, OOT labels for the boxes, favor tags, and much more at work... tisk tisk I know! This wedding has taken over my entire life!

     
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    MissBabeski    October 27, 2012   Alberta Canada

    Oh Habibah144 - Agree! Agree! Agree!

     
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    MissShork    July 30, 2011   Canada

    Omg Yes Yes Yes!

    Is it my fault that my wedding is just so much more interesting than my work right now? :P

     
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    allisonc    October 9, 2010   Boston, MA, wedding in Middletown, CT

    Me too me too! Totally distracted! Plus we're ending our 5+ year LDR and moving in to an apartment over the next few weeks, so I'm either designing menu cards or looking at bedbathandbeyond.com LOL. Very bad!

     
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    jadeblue    July 31, 2010   Western Massachusetts

    I think that's normal and possibly even inevitable. I couldn't concentrate at work for at least a month (probably more like three, to be totally honest) before my wedding. Now it's 2 weeks past and my attention is about 70% back (still a little caught up in reminiscing, checking to see if photos are blogged, etc. to totally focus, but muuuccchhh better than before, thank goodness).

     
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    Habibah14    October 24, 2010   Fairfield County, Connecticut

    Good to hear there is some hope for after!

     
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    Misstnt    October 9, 2010   WI

    Oh yeah I've totally got WRADD (wedding related ADD) and I work for my dad and my brother works here too, we don't have private offices so I have to quickly click away from the Bee if my dad walks by!!  Can't WAIT till life can be normal again!

     
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    BridetoBe101610    October 16, 2010   Northern CA

    @Circus Peanut: You are not the only one! I'm at work right now and I should be working, not looking at this site. I'm obsessed with posting and reading questions in the wedding section of Yahoo Answers. I recently discovered this site and like it better because I get more mature and non-rude answers. Every morning when I get to work, I open my email and then a tab (now two tabs) one for Yahoo Answers and the other for the weddingbee. I also have my updated guest list sitting on my lap (upside down so my boss doesn't see it if he happens to walk into my office) because I am updating my seating chart. I have missed hours and hours of work obsessing over my wedding and reading posts. In fact, I have done most of my wedding planning and research at work. It's inevitable when 1) you are in front of a computer all day, and 2) when you know you probably wont get caught. I feel bad but this will all be over in less than 2 months, so I am enjoying every moment of it all.  

    You only get married once (hopefully) and it's almost impossible to not get caught up in all the excitement (and stress) of it all. Luckily my work does not monitor my computer acitivity (I hope) and my boss is gone more than he is here. Don't feel too bad. Just make sure you get your work done. I have to pull myself away from what I want to do and knock out a bunch of work that I have neglected. It's so bad. lol

     
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    Adnama54    August 29, 2010   Boston, MA

    Omg, me too! Its gotten really bad since mid-week last week, I cannot do anything! I think its gotten worse b/c I know my boss is out until the 24th, and I'm out from the 25th to the 13th of September.

    I feel like a space cadet or something, like the only things in my head are wedding related!

     
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    Circus Peanut    October 9, 2010  

    Ha ha ha, thanks for the replies, I feel a little better now! I still love the "meat and potatoes" of my job, but I have no tolerance for stupid paperwork and "dotting i's" kind of stuff anymore. Suddenly I find myself on WB, or on Oriental Trading looking for sale items for my OOT bags...

     

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