Post # 1
I have a dilemma. I have a close married friend that my family and I want to invite her to our wedding but her husband is not welcome due to a fight that happened a few months ago that lead to the husband hitting me in the face. He has not tried to apologize for what happened. My fiancée and family have made it very clear that he is not welcome at our wedding.
How do I invite just her and her children but make it clear that her husband is not welcome.
Post # 3
@sarahharas6: First, I would let your friend know (and maybe she already does) that you wan to invite only her and the kids (for valid reasons). She may tell you ‘sure’ or ‘no thanks’, and save you the hassle of worrying about it all!
If she understands, and wants the invite, then address it specifically to her and the kids: Mrs. Jane Doe and John & Kelly (kids names). Then, if applicable, let them know that 3 seats have been reserved in their honor, etc.
Tough situation…sounds like his lack of invitation is valid though!!
Post # 4
I just wouldn’t invite any of them
Post # 5
@sarahharas6: I’d probably not invite her. If her husband is disruptive to the point of violence, I would be afraid of him taking it out on her for going to your wedding without him.
Post # 6
Unfortunately, you could be putting this friend in an uncomfortable situation at home if the kids and her are invited but the husband isn’t.
I would definitely talk to her ahead of time. Tell her it’s important to you that she is included, but that unfortunately you’re not comfortable inviting her husband. She how she feels about that. Unfortunately, she may have to respecfully decline.
If she does choose to go it may be most appropriate to just invite her, instead of inviting the whole family except this husband. But it’s ultimately up to your friend what she and her family are comfortable with.
Post # 7
@sarahharas6: This is a situation in which it is ok to invite just one half of a married couple. That said, you should probably have a conversation about this with your friend. Is this an abusive relationship?