(Closed) Wedding invitation time?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I say put 245. Guests like me who are early won’t mind a 15 minute delay, and it will give your relatives a bit more time.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

I put the correct start time on mine and listed that ceremony will start promptly so please arrive 15- 30 minutes early. We have to because venue is only slotted for 6 hours, then they need to set up for a holiday party. I will be giving staff strict instructions to lock the doors once ceremony has started and whom ever is late can wait in the hall for 20 minutes.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I will also make sure to pass the word to come early to the wedding so everyone gets the message.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Put the correct time.  Someone explained it to me like this…if your ceremony is at 3, but you’re setting an earlier time on the invitation so all of those late people will be there, you’re punishing the people who are on time.  And then YOU become the rude late person!  

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

@KateByDesign:  <– THIS.

When people arrive, and whether or not they are late, is one of those things you simply cannot control, and trying to do so will only cause perfectly futile stress. You should put the correct start time on the invitations so that you don’t end up looking late, and therefore looking bad.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

Don’t punish people who are doing the right thing by coming on time.  Also people who are punctual will always aim to be early.  So if you put down 2:45 guests will start arriving at 2:15.  That leaves them with a 45 minute wait, which is too long.

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I fully agree with what Kate said. Also, remember that it’s not like the ceremony starts with you walking down the aisle.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KateByDesign:  I would totally agree with this, but my MOH is habitually late. God love that woman, but she would be late to her own funeral, as the saying goes. I would rather be rude to a few people (I mean, sometimes wedding do run late) by running 15 minutes late than risk not having some of the most important people in my life there. By stressing the importance of being early AND setting the time 15 min early, you have better chances of the relatives making it.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@takemyhand:  But isn’t your Maid of Honor going to be with you getting read prior to the wedding?  She’s not just showing up and walking down the aisle, right?

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

@takemyhand:  If you were as important to those people as they are to you, they would not be late. 

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@armychica06:  totally this.  people who are constantly late should not be tailored to, or else they’ll never understand the importance of being of time. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Put the actual start time. Don’t punish those that arrive early for the few who are habitually late. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@KateByDesign:  She is. She needs to be at my house by noon, so I told her 11am, thus ensuring she will run in the door at 11:45 apologizing about being late.

@armychica06:  Agreed, but I still would say 15 minutes early if it meant ensuring that my FI’s family were there to witness the marriage. I would certainly make that point another time… like how my car always leaves when I say it’s going to leave, regardless of who needs to go into the house for the eighth time or who needs to change shoes.

Anyways, all up to the OP. That’s just my opinion.

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