Wedding Invitation Wording: Both sets of parents, divorce & military!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

BMidgette:  Maybe you need to think outside the box here and focus on what you are really striving to do which is to recognize your family and step parents. You can recognize them in ways just as meaningful or perhaps more so without their names being in the invitations.

Are you having a rehearsal dinner? If so, thank them there. Are you doing a program at your wedding? If yes, capture all of the names, titles, ranks and more of all of the precious people in your life who’ve helped to make your day special. Toast them during the wedding meal too! 

Sometimes it really is too hard to capture it all in an invite so perhaps looking at other ways to recognize them is your best bet.  In the interim, I like, “Together with their families…”

Post # 3
1532 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would see if fiancé can get them to host RD, and then have their names on the RD invites.  Its not clear to me, is fiancé asking his mom, dad or both.   If that is the case, I would go with wedding invites saying Captain and Mrs. MOB blah blah blah.   Let his family sort out whose names they want on RD invites.

Post # 4
86 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You could do:

Mr and Mrs. MOB

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter




son of Mrs. MOG, and (title of father) and Mrs. FOG.

Or, if that “son of” line is too wordy, you could just leave them off. If they are not hosting the wedding they do not need to be mentioned and they could just send out their invitations for the rehearsal dinner.


Side note – be careful about asking FI’s parents for $. I learned that if they wanted to pay they would. Some parents are very traditional (you said you’re semi-traditional) and do not expect to have to pay up for a wedding. I suggest FI only doing so if he is certain it won’t backfire. and i wouldn’t suggest he ask for an amount if he ends up asking. Let them decide what they would like to do, if anything.

Post # 5
219 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Garden outside our church

Here’s my two cents:

Bride, Captain, US Army 


Groom, Captain, US Army

children of (or together with their parents)

Rank and Mrs. FOB,

Ms. MOG, 

and Mr. and Mrs. FOG

blah blah blah

Just, for heaven’s sake, don’t use hubby’s rank and not yours!


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