- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I need some input for a very sticky situation, my husband (30 y/o) and I (36 y/o), yes I said my husband because we already got married in a courthouse alone this past November (I will get to that part later in this post), anyway we are not sure how to word our wedding invitations, because even though his parents offered to pay for a wedding, they do not approve of our relationship, my husband is their only son, both parents are doctors, and old southern money as they say here, and they are both very controlling on everything.
Even though we have been together for 10 years and are very happy together, this still isn’t good enough for them, and as his dad once said he wanted someone better for his son (meaning someone white, model like and from their social circle – I’m not kidding on this, their own words). That was hurtful to hear by the way.
They are not involved in anyway nor they don’t want to be, meaning they don’t mention the wedding, they dont ask about it, and they are giving us a hard time giving us names of people they might want to invite, not to mention they are now ignoring the needed payments to our wedding vendors.
Anyway, his mom only talks to me because she has to (that’s when my husband is present in the room) other times she completely ignores me, his dad hasn’t spoken to me in 9 years, specially after he realized how serious my relationship with his only son was getting.
So last November, my now husband and I were tired of delaying our wedding date so many times in the last 9 years (because of money and his parents) that we went to our local courthouse and asked the judge to marry us. It was just the two of us there and we were just so happy, we both cried at the end.
I wanted to tell everyone, but my husband said to wait, so a month later he told his parents in a private conversation, and they were both not happy of course. They were actually shocked he did it without their consent, yes they said that.
Believe if my husband and I could afford it we would pay for everything.
So with that short explanation (believe me! I gave you the short version) we are not sure how to word our invitations.
Do we put their names on them or not?
Thank you so much ladies for your time, your input on this matter is greatly appreciated.