- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
I apologize for my rant in advance, but I think I need to kinda explain the situation…
Future Mother-In-Law wanted to make an insert listing the people who helped contribute to the wedding, but I kinda get the feeling that she wants to make it seem like a family competition. I haven’t brought up my feelings about this to my FH so I just told him that I don’t have the room in the invitations because I’m making the envelopes, cards, and card pocket from scratch. It would mess up my design if I did so and I would have to buy more paper and redo everything.
I played nice not to cause drama but I feel sort of offended by this, especially since yes the Father-In-Law are helping us pay for stuff and my family isn’t exactly since they financially can’t. What my family has done for us is go through our connections and got us a bunch of services and stuff for free or ridiculously cheap so we can save thousands (DJ, photographer, linens, hall rental, caterer, make-up artist, lighting.. etc).
I’m very fortunate and thankful to everyone’s assistance because the wedding would cost over 12 grand, but we have it down to somwhere around 6 or 7 grand through family connections and with my uncle paying for half and the Father-In-Law giving us $1000, my FH and I are only paying about $2500 – $3000.
Anyway, I don’t think it is necessary to list people since think it segragates the two families. A wedding is a happy, joyful occasion of joining two families through love, not a competition on who’s side is the better side. And I think if she sees the actual list of who is doing what for us, she won’t be too… I guess.. happy/cocky/proud, and I don’t want to deal with a bitter Future Mother-In-Law.
So I’m trying to work out the wedding wording on the invitations to incorporate everyone who helped because there is so many people. I figured something like this would be more appropriate, but I get this feeling that it might be tacky:
The close friends and family of the Browns and Smiths
invite you to join the wedding celebration of
Jane & John
on Friday, October 22, 2010
at three o’ clock in the afternoon
– Reception will follow –
Do you guys think this is okay to where no one will be offended or upset because they are left out and people who didn’t contribute wouldn’t think “so they couldn’t pay for their own wedding.. lame”.
Thanks so much in advance for your advice