Post # 1
Fiances mom just handed me the guest list for that side, and for everyone 16 and over I include and guest.
Some of them my fiance was like, NO DONT LET that person bring a guest,
I don’t know who they’ll bring … but I told him it is not proper to
let one person bring a guest and not the other … right?
I have a question though …
are two families in particular that I’m confused about. One has 2
college age sons – on there individual invitation I’m putting and guest but they also have a daughter in highschool and I’m so confused if I should put and guest or not. Fiance said don’t because she would not be allowed to bring anyone anyway. Lol.
the second family is one that has a college age son whom I’m putting and guest but there are two girls in highschool … I don’t know if I should put and guest or not. Soo confused.
it be proper to allow two 16 yr. old girls to bring someone … even
though most likely they’ll just rsvp for one – and they wouldn’t be
allowed (by their uber strict fathers) to bring someone anyway? Lol.
Hmmm … haven’t asked my wedding planner yet about this. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think no "and guests" for anyone under eighteen or who has not graduated high school.
Post # 4
What I did (not sure if its the "right way") was I let all my OOT guests that are 18 yrs or older bring a guest. Other then that I allowed all guest to bring their husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend. In town guests that are not married or in a relationship, I didn’t allow to bring a guest… The OOT guests I felt like I had to allow then to bring a guest since they would want a travel companion.
Post # 5
I say no guest for the girl in high school. Guests ok for college aged guests.
High schoolers don’t need a guest. THat’s just extra cost to you, and honestly, completely unnecessary in my opinion. What 16 year old has a serious SO anyways? My FI’s cousin wasn’t allowed to bring her BF (at the time) to her cousins’ wedding (she was 16) and whined about it. But I was allowed to attend as a "date" but my FI was in college at the time. I think it was generally accepted that it was ok because he was an ADULT.
Man i wasn’t even thinking about boys at 16, lol!
Post # 6
I agree, no1 under 18 or still in high school should be invited and guest. And honestly even through college, if they arent in a serious relationship and are coming with their family, I wouldnt invtie them and guest. There is really no need to, its a family event for them.
Post # 7
If they still live at home and are being included in the parents’ invitation there is no reason to include "and guest". If they live on their own and are receiving their own invitation it’s only fair to allow them to bring a guest (unless you are not allowing any +1s).
Post # 8
Ok. These replies make complete sense. I will only give the option of and guest on invites to everyone who is 18+. Thank you everyone.