We used "together with their families" in the interest of saving space and headaches.
Traditionally, it was the bride's parents who were listed as hosting the event because they paid for the wedding. But if no parents are contributing, then you can just say "Together with their families (or parents)." If you wanted to honor them in some way beyond that, you can do what Filipino people (and lots of other people do too) do and include a list of everyone in your wedding party as an enclosure with the invitation.
Something like this, but add your parents (maybe not their spouses), yours and your FI's names, etc.
It no parents are contributing you can just list yourself and fiance as the host and not have any parents on the invite. Otherwise I would jsut go with the "together with their families" option.
I think we're just doing
HisFirst HisLastName
&
MyFirst MyLastName
Together With Their Families
Or maybe just the names. Who knows. Divorced parents are hard.
Ours said "together with their parents", and our parents are not divorced! You could ask your parents what they think
i would do together with their parents, we have same problem as you, and our parents aren't paying for anything, it's so hard when you have divorced parents to please them
Actually, the bride's mother was traditionally listed as host -- along with the mother's husband if she had one -- because traditionally she actually hosted the event. She paid -- or some kind relative paid on her behalf -- because she as hostess was the person who incurred the costs. If she couldn't afford to pay, she was still the hostess; she just arranged a more modest event. The point being that the honour of hosting such an event is not for sale, and the private financial details of who pays for what is kept private by polite persons.
The other point being, that "hostess" is an actual role, with actual responsibilities, and the proper way to decide who is named as hostess on the invitation, is simply to name the person who actually IS the hostess.
I definitely did "together with their families"! Not only are my parents divorced but I'm still not even sure I'm inviting my dad to the wedding, and none of our parents are contributing financially so we definitely didn't put their names on it. It worked out for us.
Just use together with their families. I'm doing this because it's so much easier. My FI's mom kept her maiden name, and my parents are divorced, but my mom hyphenated after the divorce and my dad is remarried. So it would look something like this:
Ms. Sheila Jones-Handal and Ron Handal with his wife Kate Zender
Invite you to take part in celebration of the marriage of their daughter
Caroheart Handal
to
Robert Bernard
Son of Larry Bernard and Melissa Pomfort
... see what I mean?
We used "Together with their FAmilies" also because of the same reason. Both our parents are divorced. Mine recently (4 years ago) so not re-married but his have been divorced since he was 3 so they are both re-married. It's VERy complicated. I had to list both his mom and step dad (Ie Mr. and Mrs GAry Bowman) and Dad and step mom ( Mr and Mrs Steve and Cindy Marcotte) on the rehearsal dinner invites though because that's what they are payng for. My family and us paid for the wedding itself. I agree it Stinks!
Jumping on board the "together with their families" bandwagon. We took our families out of it altogether and worded ours like this:
With joy in their hearts
bride + groom
invite you to celebrate with them on their wedding day
Thanks for all the responses. I think we're sticking with the "together with their families" I guess if they have a problem they'll just have to get over it! 
I do not normally like "togethor with their families" if either or both set of families are helping pay for the wedding. Even if the invite starts looking crowded, come on, they deserve it. However this case seems tailor made for "togethor with their families"
Carol, the problem with that is that only two people can say "their" daughter.
@LMD84: Us too. Both of us have divorced parents, each of us have one parent who remarried. It would have made the invitation a booklet to list everyone.
If neither are contributing to your wedding, you can actually go casual and only list your & the grooms name. Tradationally, only the parents whom are helping with the wedding get listed on the invatation.
@juanita.kelly.9: If you believe that, but I think that once someone becomes your stepMOTHER it's close enough, and it's clear that the father's specified wife is not the actual mother
Carol, whether SM is "close enought" to a mother depends. If the SM never lived with the kid, it may not be close enough.
Hopefully it is clear, but it still doesnt mean SM = MOM.
@juanita.kelly.9: I know, I'm saying they aren't the same thing but that it doesn't matter for the invitation. Unless someone really has such horrible feelings toward their stepmother in which case they can just leave her off
ETA also, she should be listed because if your father is paying for the wedding, then that means the stepmother is also helping to pay and should be listed as a host.
@LMD84: +1
Also, if they're not contributing, they really don't need to be listed. You could just write:
The honor of your presence
is requested at the marriage of
Heather Marie Smith
to Michael Francis Jacobson
Saturday, the seventeenth of May
two thousand and eight
at half past four in the afternoon
Carol, in many second marriages, the spouses do NOT share or combine money. Just becuase dad is contributing does not mean SM is.
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Im going through some rough drafts on how to word my invitations. Both my parents and my Fiance's parents are divorced. My dad & his dad have remarried, my mom is currently going through a divorce & his mom still shares the same last name as her ex husband but might consider being refered to her maiden name. NIETHER of our families are contributing to our wedding... Suggestions on wording?
I know the proper way is to list names on seperate lines if they are divorced. That looks tacky to me. I've considered listing them like
Mr. Mike Anderson & Mrs. Susanne Hass
with
Mr. Donnie Jones & Ms. Shelia Smith
OR just listing "together with their families". I dont want to offend anyone either. Why must families be so complicated!!!!!! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!