Post # 1
Okay so im in a little bit of a pickle. My fiance and i went to pick out our invitatins last week which went well and we had to write exactly what we wanted printed on them.
Heres the problem; My parents and My fiance and I have splitted the costs equally but his mum has not contributed at all. Even so, i thought we should write
Bride & Goroom
together with their parents
invite you to …….
That was fine, but when my parents asked me what we wrote they seemed almost insulted that we hadnt written
Mr & Mrs Brides Parents invite you to the wedding of
bride and groom….
and also that we had included his mum at all considering the money. I tried to explain this to my fiance and he was obviously less than impressed and now im in trouble.
I dont know what yo write and either way i think im stuffed, also im running out of time!
Please help me!!
Post # 3
it’s traditiin for the brides family to be the ones named on the invitations not in the first way you mentioned. I would do that But if course it’s entirely up to you and these days there are all kinss of ways of doing it
Post # 4
Mr & Mrs Brides Parents invite you to the wedding of their daughter
grooms parents names
Post # 5
thanks, the second one is what my parents are more looking for but although my parents have contriuted almost half we are hosting our wedding and we had full intention of paying for it until they said it was a gift.
Also my fiancee one has one parents and he doesnt want her to feel left out and if i say to him “bet traditionally….” he comes back with “…but ths weding is not traditional…”
Beleive it or not this is the only thing we are disagreeing on so its quite uncomfortable.
Post # 6
Eeek how awkward. We did “together with their parents” even though my parents paid for the whole wedding. I would just do what you both think is best. Do your parents seriously care that much? I mean, what are they going to do if you do your original wording?
Post # 7
I really like this wording and see it used quite a bit.
Post # 8
@nluznyj: My parents are pitching in but their names will not be on the invites. Hopefully your folks will get over it. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal worth stressing over. As long as you are grateful for their contribution, they should figure this out.
Our invites will start as…
Please join us for an evening of love and laughter with family and friends as ME and HE tie the knot or whatever… 🙂
Post # 9
We did “together with their families…” when DH’s parents paid for some, and my family didn’t help out financially. I didn’t want anyone’s name on the invitation but ours.
Post # 10
@nluznyj: typically, the names of the hosts (people who are contributing) are listed on the invitation. if your parents are contributing that much and fmil is not, your parents may feel that fmil should not be on the invite for that reason. unfortunately, this could offend both sets of parents if it goes either way.
if i were you, i would do what the host (or hosts) want for the invite. if not, they may renig on the money offered. sit down and talk to your parents about this and ask them how they feel about including fmil’s name.
Post # 11
@nluznyj: regardless of who is paying, who is hosting the wedding? are both parents together? or are just your parents? or just the bride and groom.
since his parents haven’t contributed financially, i would go with
mrs and mr brides parents invite you to
the celebration of marriage of their daughter
son of grooms parents.
Post # 12
ajillity81 , My fiance and i are hosting and my parents have contributed almost half of the costs.
I do like @j jaye ‘s wording and also LilRhodyGem ‘s non-traditional invite, might have to come ip with something that combines the two.
Any last minute ideas?
Post # 13
“Hosting” is not the same as paying or contributing. “Hosting” means taking personal responsibility for the safety, comfrot and entertainment of all your guests. Of course, you rely on vendors to do that, and vendors need to be paid. But finances are a private matter for the hostess to work out, and are not advertised in her social correspondence.Certainly finances are not something to squabble over: that would be vulgar.
By formal proper etiquette, private social functions are hosted by one hostess, not a committee of hostesses, optionally in concert with her husband if she happens to be married. So the most accurate and honest, and therefore most proper, wording that also includes your parents names would be
daughter of mrs and mr brides parents
requests the pleasure of the company of
Mr and Mrs Guest
at the celebration of her marriage to
son of grooms parents. …
Post # 14
Our situation is: My parents paying for about 50%, FI and I paying for about 20%, FI’s grandparents covering 20%, and his parents covering 5%. My parents, though, are hosting (his family is all OOT, so my parents are the “figure heads” of the event).
We’re not going full-on formal – more classic/modern, so we’re not doing Mr. and Mrs. Dad’s Name.
Anyway, this is our wording:
Mymom and Mydad last name
joyfully invite you to witness
the wedding of their daughter
son of FImom and FIdad last name
So you could do
your first your middle
FI first and middle
son of FI mom (but if they have different last names, his name should be FI first FI last)
Post # 15
@nluznyj: I had issues with the wording myself since we are paying but his parents do a lot for us. Is his mom giving you anything? Money for the hm?
It’s a tough call. My parents are the ones without money & I wouldn’t want them to feel left out. I would do together with… I’d rather fight with my parents than make my viands feel bad. (That’s me though, I’m not super close with them).
Post # 16
oh how awquard, i think id go with tradition and leave it at that.