Wedding Invite Help needed please!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
99 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

it’s traditiin for the brides family to be the ones named on the invitations not in the first way you mentioned. I would do that But if course it’s entirely up to you and these days there are all kinss of ways of doing it 

Post # 4
7282 posts
Busy Beekeeper



Mr & Mrs Brides Parents invite you to the wedding of their daughter

brides name

grooms name

son of

grooms parents names



Post # 6
2878 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Eeek how awkward.  We did “together with their parents” even though my parents paid for the whole wedding.  I would just do what you both think is best.  Do your parents seriously care that much? I mean, what are they going to do if you do your original wording?

Post # 7
6446 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@j_jaye: +1

I really like this wording and see it used quite a bit.


Post # 8
3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@nluznyj:  My parents are pitching in but their names will not be on the invites. Hopefully your folks will get over it. In the grand scheme of things, it’s not a big deal worth stressing over. As long as you are grateful for their contribution, they should figure this out.

Our invites will start as…

Please join us for an evening of love and laughter with family and friends as ME and HE tie the knot or whatever… 🙂

Post # 9
11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We did “together with their families…” when DH’s parents paid for some, and my family didn’t help out financially. I didn’t want anyone’s name on the invitation but ours.

Post # 10
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@nluznyj:  typically, the names of the hosts (people who are contributing) are listed on the invitation.  if your parents are contributing that much and fmil is not, your parents may feel that fmil should not be on the invite for that reason.  unfortunately, this could offend both sets of parents if it goes either way.

if i were you, i would do what the host (or hosts) want for the invite.  if not, they may renig on the money offered.  sit down and talk to your parents about this and ask them how they feel about including fmil’s name.

Post # 11
6158 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@nluznyj:  regardless of who is paying, who is hosting the wedding?  are both parents together? or are just your parents? or just the bride and groom.

since his parents haven’t contributed financially, i would go with

mrs and mr brides parents invite you to

the celebration of marriage of their daughter




son of grooms parents.


Post # 13
1644 posts
Bumble bee

“Hosting” is not the same as paying or contributing. “Hosting” means taking personal responsibility for the safety, comfrot and entertainment of all your guests. Of course, you rely on vendors to do that, and vendors need to be paid. But finances are a private matter for the hostess to work out, and are not advertised in her social correspondence.Certainly finances are not something to squabble over: that would be vulgar.

By formal proper etiquette, private social functions are hosted by one hostess, not a committee of hostesses, optionally in concert with her husband if she happens to be married. So the most accurate and honest, and therefore most proper, wording that also includes your parents names would be

Miss Bride

daughter of mrs and mr brides parents

requests the pleasure of the company of

Mr and Mrs Guest

at the celebration of her marriage to

Mr groom

son of grooms parents. …

Post # 14
1768 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Our situation is: My parents paying for about 50%, FI and I paying for about 20%, FI’s grandparents covering 20%, and his parents covering 5%. My parents, though, are hosting (his family is all OOT, so my parents are the “figure heads” of the event).

We’re not going full-on formal – more classic/modern, so we’re not doing Mr. and Mrs. Dad’s Name.

Anyway, this is our wording:

Mymom and Mydad last name

joyfully invite you to witness

the wedding of their daughter

Ashley Middle


FI Middle

son of FImom and FIdad last name






So you could do

Your parents


the wedding

your first your middle


FI first and middle


son of FI mom (but if they have different last names, his name should be FI first FI last)




Post # 15
1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@nluznyj:  I had issues with the wording myself since we are paying but his parents do a lot for us. Is his mom giving you anything? Money for the hm?

It’s a tough call. My parents are the ones without money & I wouldn’t want them to feel left out. I would do together with… I’d rather fight with my parents than make my viands feel bad. (That’s me though, I’m not super close with them).

Post # 16
32 posts

oh how awquard, i think id go with tradition and leave it at that.

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