Wedding invite via Facebook

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How do you feel about a Facebook invite to a wedding?
    Never okay : (45 votes)
    61 %
    Okay for casual weddings : (24 votes)
    32 %
    Always okay : (5 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My friend got invited to a wedding on Facebook but it was SUPER casual, as in they just decided to go to a nearby beach and have a party afterward with family and close friends. 

    So I say it depends on the formality of the event, but I don’t blame you for being kind of put off.

    Post # 4
    Member
    414 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @MrsBeck: What happens if a guest isn’t a member of Facebook?

    I voted “Never Okay” – I think even an evite is pushing it. I like to think that weddings and babies always require some sort of formality. Unless something is super last minute, I think some sort of invite should be mailed out.

    With an evite, you can at least customize it to fit a theme and set the tone for the day, but I think that should be a last resort. Facebook just seems so informal to me. 

    Post # 5
    Member
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsBeck:  I would be skeptical of the seriousness of the occasion and the marriage unless I knew the couple was super “green” and very vocal about not wanting to polute the environment with excess paper.

    Post # 8
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    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    @MrsBeck:  With the additional information it sounds a bit gift-grabby to me.  If you actually attend I will bet now that there won’t be any food or entertainment (i.e. attend our ceremony, give us gifts, and GTFO) and you will receive something that clearly indicates the bridal couple expects money in lieu of gifts.

    Post # 9
    Member
    8593 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I got one once but it was really casual and I was only invited to the reception.

    But generally I think they should be mailed out.

    Post # 10
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    2642 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I voted “Never Ok.”  I too would question the seriousness of the event and my presence.  FB invites are just too impersonal and too informal.  Plus they are usually mass invites (similar to your case where every friend is invited).  I think it comes off as you don’t really care about the people you’re inviting and that they are invited just as seat fillers or present givers.

    If you want to save on paper, that’s fine.  I’m not opposed to evites, but at least that’s a private email and requires more than 5 seconds of thought.  I’d feel wanted if I recieved and email invite, but not if I received a FB invite.

    Post # 11
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    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @MrsBeck:  I said never okay.

    A friend of mine had a super casual wedding recently and did an evite, which I thought was borderline. Facebook is just not enough in my opinion. Dare I use the T word?

    Post # 12
    Member
    2441 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2018

    I really wouldn’t care if I recoeved a FB invite. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    It wouldn’t bother me at all, unless it was one of those “all 900 friends are invited and here’s our registry info”.

    Post # 14
    Member
    4513 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I say never okay. I wouldn’t take it seriously until I got a formal invitation, or at least an email for crap’s sake! FB is so impersonal and just a joke most of the time.

    Post # 16
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    10748 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @MrsBeck:  Well it sounds innocent enough. I only have about 70 friends on Facebook because they’re actually people I know, but it seems like I’ve read on here before about brides/grooms with hundreds of random “friends” that get invited just for gifts. 

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