Post # 1
I need help, more drama, guess that is what happens when your parents are divorced! This time it’s a different problem. I was not going to put my stepmom’s name on the invite just my dad and mom and my FI’s parents. My dad was upset and said that he was on his stepdaughters invite, well her dad left and she never saw him again, so I think it is completely different. I don’t want to anger my stepmom and dad, but I am not close to my stepmom and don’t really like her, in fact I don’t even consider her my stepmother. Plus I know my mom would be upset too, because she is my real mom and I don’t think my stepmom deserves to be on the invite, what to do without burning any bridges?
Post # 3
“Together with our families…” It kept our invites simple and didn’t hurt anyone’s feelings (that I’m aware of).
Post # 4
Is your dad helping pay for the wedding? If so I would say you should include her. After all, it is her money too. I am including the name of both my step parents on our wedding invites.
Mr. and Mrs. Yourdadandstepmom
request the pleasure of your company….
Post # 5
I think in this case there is nothing you can do not to burn bridges but put your stepmom’s name on the invite. Even though you do not consider her to be your step mother she still is. I have the same situation with my stepmom, we do not get along AT ALL and never have but my relationship with my father and his feelings are ultimately more important and I know that he would be upset if she wasn’t included and so I put my stepmom on my invite as well.
Post # 6
@alleycat1984: If your father is helping to pay for and is serving as a host of your wedding, I think you need to include your stepmother, as she would be considered to be part of a social unit with your father, and their resources would be shared. If he is not helping to pay or is not serving as a host, and your invitation is simply naming your parents (i.e. “Alleycat 1984, daughter of Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith), you probably do not need to include your stepmother.
Post # 7
All good comments, my dad is helping with my wedding a little bit, he is giving me $1000 but so is my mom. My stepmom has never worked, so I consider it my dad’s money. I know my mom would be upset if my stepmom’s name was on the invite too mostly because they hate each other and my stepmother has never been that nice to me and my mother knows it. I might go the together with our families part!
Post # 8
You could just say “Your full name and his full name, together with their parents (leave out any name/names) request your company…” and then whoever considers themselves parents can think that way and for you it can just mean your actual parents. It’s a pretty common modern thing to do.
Post # 9
@bakerella: I think that is the best option!
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I have a great relationship with my Stepmom, but she’s not on the invite.
Mom Rebwana and
request the pleasure…
They’re on two lines so no one gets confused about their marital status.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I’d do the “together with their parents” thing or leave it out entirely. I wasn’t sure what to do with ours because it’s in my mom’s space but nobody is contributing cash, but my dad is doing all kinds of stuff for us, and Mr. D’s parents aren’t really able to do much… so I’m leaving it out entirely…
Post # 12
FI’s parents aren’t together and he has a step-mom. We didn’t want to step on anyone’s toes or have any hurt feelings so we just wrote “Together with their families” on ours.