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Wedding is 2 months away and I am stressing out!

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    BettyBye    9-19-2009  

    Wedding is 2 months away and I am stressing out!    What do you do to relieve the stress and fear that nothing's going to work out?

     
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    Buzzing bee
    star    October 11, 2009   New York, NY!

    First, breathe. Sounds silly, but it works.

    When I get too stressed to handle it, I go to the gym and work out for a bit to chill out. Another thing that works for me is having some coffee, which calms my nerves. Or you can always just go to bed. Things seem easier in the morning after a night's sleep.

    Good luck! 

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Take a break from the wedding!

    go to the gym. This was my sanity. All in all, it cuts out on town, but it gives you space. Then, go back and make a realistic list. What REALLY needs to be done? Sometimes you can easily get overwhelmed by what you WANT to do, not what you NEED to do and break it down. Then spread it out over the next 2 months so you know what you're going to get done every week. Every night if you're as OCD about it as me. For example:

    Invitations

         compile address

         stuff

         Buy stamps

     

    You know, every little thing so you don't forget. Once it's all written down what needs to be done, you may be surprised that it just FEELS like there's a lot to do. In reality it may not be that much. And if it is, you start asking for help! 

     
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    missmck    September 18, 2009   Iowa

    We're exactly two months out, too - today!  So I definitely understand.  I agree, making a list is crucial.  Make a game plan for yourself - what needs to be done?  When?  By whom?  When you have a plan for the next eight weeks, you can decide if it's realistic.  And, if that's not the case, don't fret - there are many (myself included) that have had to say goodbye to a few projects that just aren't feasible. 

    I don't know what you're using for a task list/plan, but if you'd like to use mine as a template you're welcome.  Thus far it's treated us well!  

     
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    emg    October 3, 2009   TX

    I'm about 2.5 months away and what I did was take a break from the wedding planning! (Just like ejs4y8 suggested.) I had a couple of lazy days around the house watching horrible reality shows that were not wedding related and reading a book. It was great. When my break was over I made a "master list" with the things that needed to get done, broken down into ceremony, reception, honeymoon, etc. Then I realized, it was not all that bad...and took a look at all of the other hardwork we have completed over the last few months. We've divided things up and I feel SO much better. Also, little naps in between wedding planning are a good idea :-)

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    I go out with my friends..its rooftop bar time woo hoo!

     
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    bluespurrs    August 7, 2009   South-central PA, USA, Earth

    What I would give to have two whole months, I have only 20 days to do the impossible. I am so far behind with grading that I am taking some work along to the hours and hours long horse-shoe tourament that my FI is all ablaze about. The only think I can recommend is taking little mental vacations - a day or at least several hour blocks of time when you asbsolutely refuse to think about wedding planning.

     
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    budgetbeautiful    9/26/09   Fredericksburg, VA

    I'm about two months away as well and I'm really pretty zen about it. Don't worry about everythng all the time. I'd be lying if I said I don't have wedding nightmares and freak-outs, but I try not to let it get to me. Focus on what MUST be done before the wedding. Like you have to have shoes for the day. You don't HAVE to have out of town bags, programs, etc. Once I started thinking that way, I really calmed down about things. If I can get it done before the wedding, swell. If not, those little details won't be missed!

     
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    We're less than 50 days out and I had a little meltdown this morning. Obviously I'm on weddingbee to try to relax! I'm revising my to-do list right now to try to figure out what I can delegate and to prioritize. Lists calm me, do you have a list that you can check stuff off of to feel like you're making progress?

     

     
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    ilovenycmissie    September 2009   nyc

    I am really happy when I think about wedding planning it brings me so much joy!doing tasks, making lists, I feel so happy

     

    why do people stress out?

     

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