wedding is cancelled…cheating fiance

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
3806 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@LunaFleurLavender:  (((HUGS)))

I know what it’s like to move on with another person but still have those feelings of hurt and anger towards an ex. Just know that time heals all wounds. As the days, weeks, months, and years drift by, you will feel affect a little less until you seriously don’t feel anything at all towards him or the situation.

It took me a few months (even after meeting my husband) to stop being angry at my immediate ex. It took me 4 years to get over a heart break with my ex from college and I moved on to dating other men. I compartmentalized the anger so I was careful not to carry my stuff into the next relationship.

You will get through this and you will see your partner, or your future husband as the best thing that has ever happened to you…not in comparison to any other man, but because he is who he is. Trust me. It will work out. Give it time.

Post # 4
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9253 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@LunaFleurLavender:  If your profile picture is you – you’re stunning and he was a complete idiot.  I’m glad you’re with someone great now.  Time will heal you and you’ll always be grateful you didn’t marry into that mess.

Post # 5
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6753 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

When my ex-husband cheated on me and left me my therapist told me the wisest thing- she told me that I was grieving the life I didn’t get to have- the one I had made up in my mind but that would not really ever happen because of his actions.  It is hard to get over that- it took me years. I am remarried with a daughter and life does get better.  But it does take some time- good luck!

Post # 6
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303 posts
Helper bee

@LunaFleurLavender:  I cannot even begin to understand what you’re going through. I’m sorry this happened to you. It isgreat that you are with someone so much better. You are allowed to be angry and resentful. You’re human. In time it will heal, so in the meantime enjoy your time with your new partner. You’ll find out even more what it is like to be appreciated and loved. You will look back and be happy you didn’t marry him, because it would have only gotten worse. Things happen for a reason. You just need time.

Post # 7
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566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

my story is very similar to yours. i left my ex june 2 to be exact. walked out. had enough. needless to say the cops were called after he begged me to stay.. things got a bit rough, i called the cops. i grabbed my dog change of clothes walked out. moved in with my guy friend (only TEMP i told him – needed a place to lay low, collect my thoughts and figure out my next move – i moved from Toronto to be with my x). needless to say, i haven’t left my ‘friends’ place, we’re now engaged and i couldnt be happier. i was engaged to my x (i still have the dress not the ring) and lost my $2500 reception deposit but oh well. i get mad everytime the bank calls me as he put my credit in the hole and screwed me financially for years to come but OH WELL. know how i can get through this? cause i am soooo happy. i pinch myself sometimes to wake up. i think sometimes you have to go through UTTER HELL to get something fantastic and amazing in your life. you deserve it. you will be happier. there are days i get mad too and sadly i rant infront of my FI but he listens then hugs me then i am good. so dont despair – you will do it. you will be fine.

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