Post # 1
I have a little under 8 months until my wedding… However, it’s starting to drive me mad already…i want everything organised! i can’t concentrate at work because i’m too busy wondering whether certain people in my family will come to wedding, or whether i’m going to have to chase RSVP’s or how i’m going to wear my hair, or what height should my shoes be?….arrrgghhhhh!
I randomly text my BM wedding related stuff when it pops into my head, and i fear i’m becoming a bridezilla.
I want to enjoy planning the wedding, but i need to somehow switch off from it during working hours!!!
Does/did anyone else feel like this? Or have some advise….
Post # 3
I feel exactly like this.
I really hope there are other bees who have some advice for us!
Post # 4
Don’t you wish it was this easy?
Post # 5
@happyface: haha, yes if only!
Post # 6
any bees out there with some advise??
Post # 7
Try not to come on this site everyday… It’s addicting!
Or rather, designate a day (or a few) a week that you do absoletely NOTHING wedding related. If you feel the urge to text your BM or whomever, just don’t. Write it down if you must be let it go and think about something else..try to be productive elsewhere.
Post # 8
I used to be like this. Not everything can be done immediately. I learned that very quickly. I used two wedding monthly timelines and followed them. I found some excel spreadsheets that I used to organized everything from budgets to rehearsal dinners to packing lists. As far as tracking RSVPs down, you will have plenty of time. I required a response a month before the wedding. That gave me 2 weeks to call/email/facebook to find out if they were coming. I made lists of ideas and created a Pinterest board with ideas to scroll through. I wouldn’t do any detail/decoration work until 4 months before as you may discover new ideas or different decorating schemes. I can send you the excel document I used if you would like. I modified and added to the ones commonly found online.
Post # 9
@springwed8: This post literally could have been written by me! even the same amount of time until the wedding (roughly, mine is actually slightly over 8 months but close)
Post # 10
I cant sleep, I cant think. Unfortunately I can still eat.
My mind is focused on my daughters wedding and how I will pull it all together and how to pay for this and that and etc etc.
I dream about it and it’s the first thing I think of when I wake up. My daughters attitude is…Eh, you’ll handle it mom. I even insist on doing all this DIY crap literally BY MYSELF.
I think I’m becomming a Momzilla!
Post # 11
I was that way for a while when I first started planning. Then once the big stuff got figured out, I pulled back and now that it’s the final stretch I’m all wedding all the time again. I used a massive google excel doc (seriously, 10 tabs) to just keep everything in order. That way no matter where I was (home, work, etc.) I could jot down little thoughts, research, etc, when it came to me. I also had a saved draft in my email with a list of tasks and deadlines for easy access. If you get yourself organized, even if you don’t have all the details figured out, that might help!
Post # 12
Keep a notebook at work or in your purse. Everytime you think of something wdding related, write it down. I find that I often obsess over things because I don’t want to forget to do X,Y and Z. So if I write them down, I feel like I won’t forget, and can start concentrating on other things. This way you can follow up o all those things at a later time, like maybe once a week after work or something.
Post # 13
@springwed8: Calm down! Seriously, if you’re this crazy months out, what are you going to do 4 days away? Jeez!
In all seriousness though, just know this. EVERYTHING works out. EVERYONE is happy. The single most important thing about the day is not the party, the food, the music, the # of guests, the # of no-shows, the photographer. That’s all peripheral. You are marrying the man you love. You are committing your life to your guy and he’s committing his life to his girl. All the other stuff, really doesn’t matter.
Let go, roll with the punches, and know that no matter what happens, at the end of the day, you are walking away a married woman, with your best bud as your husband.
Post # 14
Put it all into perspective. The point of marriage is you marry the person of your dreams. The flowers, agenda, all that is just fancy stuff.
Remember what the real meaning of the wedding is and it should help you gain some perspective that details consuming your every waking thought– is just silly.
Post # 15
Thanks guys, i think i was having a particularly stressful day yesterday where everything was just whizzing round my head!
I’m actually pretty on top of the major stuff….but now if feel like it’s still ages away and that i have too long to mull over the details.
@S2013: i agree, this site is addictive!
@UJSMCWG06: & @inexplicablecomfort: thanks for the advise about spreadsheets.. i have a couple, but perhaps should up this for all the details!
@JemmaWRX: & @tfm: I definately need to remember this! you’re so right…. 🙂
Post # 16
Oh wow, I’m really bonkers, I’m freaking out and mine it 15 months away! Early planning because of international travel and immigration planning and crazy schedule… Ack!