Post # 1
I’ve always been an average to curvy size (ranging from 10/12 in HS and 12/14 in college) but over the past few years I’ve crept up to a 14/16 and I feel so gross about my body.
Not to mention I just got my wedding dress from alterations yesterday and it STILL won’t zip up…they said they could only let out 1/2-3/4 of an inch. With TWO bodyshapers on, I can get it to zip up, but then my back fat spills over (even though it has a slight V-scoop in the back) and my arms are huge.
I hate my stupid stomach fat, forming double-chin, arm and back fat! Ugh! I just really hate how I look and in a million years I never would have pictured myself looking so huge for my wedding.
Of course my Fiance is so supportive and says he loves me no matter what and says he knows I’ll look beautiful…I’m honestly worried about how other people (who haven’t seen me in awhile) will see me looking so chubby coming down the aisle, and how I will feel being in front of all those people feeling so horrible about my body.
I hate being in the spotlight and on the one day I have to, I really don’t want to look like this. 🙁 I’m just so depressed!
Post # 3
nooooooooooo! This makes me want to cry! What can you do to feel more comfortable? Obviously your Fiance loves you just how you are! Maybe focus on things you DO like about yourself? It’s so easy to focus on our self perceived “flaws”!
Post # 4
I’m sorry 🙁 I know that personally, no matter HOW much I am over what I want to be, it always makes me feel like a million bucks to drop 10 pounds (no matter how much more I need to go). 30 days is still sufficiant time to cut back alittle on your overall calorie intake, etc. & get to feeling alittle better…. I’m not saying crash diet from here till the wedding, but simply eating better and taking some walks will make you FEEL better and your body feel stronger. Wishing you the best of luck, you will be beautiful on your wedding day regardless !
Post # 5
@Miss_Lily: Aw, I totally feel for you! I agree with PP about focusing on what makes YOU feel good about yourself. Personally, I know my stomach and thighs need toning, but I’ve got some killer calves (thank you soccer horse back riding). So whenever I feel down about myself I’ll wear bermuda shorts with a t-shirt and sweater to hide everything else. You still have 30 days though, that’s plently of time to focus on yourself and help yourself feel better. Good luck, you’ll be beautiful on your wedding day no matter what.
Post # 6
I probably could’ve written that exact post about a week before my wedding. But then I realized… there was NOTHING I could do in that moment and what would hurt me the most is to ruin my ONE wedding day worrying about what I look like. So I made a really conscious decision to not worry about it.
Now that I have the pictures back… sure there are some where I think “omg chin… omg back fat!!” But there are FAR more that I think… wow… I actually look really pretty! Photographers are wonderful, and if you’re having a good time it will shine through. My wedding dress was a size 18 and I still feel like I looked great on my wedding day. I’m having issues uploading to weddingbee but if you’d like to see my pics, please pm me and let me know and I”ll send you the link.
Post # 7
I feel the same way about myself right now. I’m bigger now than I ever have been, and this is such a HUGE wedding that I feel like I let myself down by not getting the weight off, especially since I had so much time to do it. I just keep hoping that once I have my whole look put together that I’ll feel better about how I look and feel. Plus with some clever camera angles I might look a couple sizes slimmer. I’m sorry you feel this way, and know that you’re not alone.
Post # 8
I find that if I’m feeling bad about myself, eating clean foods for a few days really helps. The nutrients give me energy and lift my mood. I also don’t feel bloated, which is when I feel at my worst. Lots of fresh air, sunshine and clean eating and you will feel like a million bucks at your wedding. I’m a size 14 so trust me, I hear you.
Post # 9
I’m so so sorry you feel this way – no bride should feel like this, and I know you’ll look absolutely beautiful!
Have you considered adding a bolero to your wedding day attire? I think those are absolutely gorgeous, and it could make you feel less self-conscious about your arms and back.
I am not remotely suggesting that you diet, but I know dropping just a few pounds makes a world of difference in how I feel about myself. You could try the 17-day diet or South Beach or something along those lines – nothing crazy, just really healthy food for 2 weeks or so.
Regardless of what you choose to do, remember that your guests are there to witness your marriage and celebrate with you, NOT to critique you on how you look. I’ve never seen a bride who didn’t look beautiful and radiant on her wedding day.
Post # 10
@KatyElle: i totally agree! I’m on the tinier side myself, but I, just like every other female, have my “I feel gross” days.
Eating clean foods (veggies, fruits and lean protein), chugging water, and getting some sunshine all make me feel soooo much better about myself!!
Remember your soon-to-be husband thinks you are beautiful, otherwise he wouldn’t be marrying you, men are superficial, it’s a fact 🙂
Post # 11
oh and it’s not for everyone but some women have done a cleanse diet just before their wedding and said they felt like a new person. Some of the cleanse diets are more expensive (the ones where the drinks are shipped to you) and I haven’t done a ton of research myself, but you could look into it. Just be careful because some cleanse diets are not good for you.
Post # 12
Make your goal to be a “size healthy”! I know this may be strange but in every pair of jeans I wrote “size healthy” on the tag (I’m a size 14 right now.. used to be a size 8/10). I’m doing a 21 day fast right now (not for weight but for other reasons) but it works for losing weight! All I’m focusing on is mostly veggies, fruits and grains such as brown rice, millet, quiona, whole wheat pasta and pop corn. Try eating as clean as you can.. you can lose weight if thats your goal!
Post # 13
I’m sorry that you are feeling bad. I feel that way a lot too. Perhaps do a 3 day fruit/veggie fast to jump start a diet. I know it’s hard, trust me, but in 3 days, you can lose some water weight and that feels great!
It always helps me to come up with some great meal ideas, go shopping for fresh food, and spend the day doing some cooking. Take all the treats and lock them up until after the wedding. You will feel so good about yourself, trust me! Go for a walk 3 days a week (plan them out in advance so you know when you have to do it!)
Post # 14
Weight Watchers for 2 weeks and I am already down 7.2 pounds. That is w zero exercise (I wasn’t feeling 100%).
That being said, you will be beautiful on your wedding day. And I cannot wait to see the pics!
Post # 15
I’m so sorry you feel this way now. I know that it always helps, like the other bees are saying, to remember that you are marrying a man who loves you no matter what!
Know that on your wedding day, you will be glowing and in love and that is beautiful!!!
If your goal is to lose some weight, what worked for me very quickly was to eat smaller meals more frequently throughout the day, and make sure that they are healthy!
Also, Jillian Michael’s 30 day shred is genius!
Bottom line is, no matter what, you are beautiful and you are loved. 🙂
Post # 16
I found something better than any diet…..its called power plates…i seriously suggest you find somwhere that does the classes with an instructor…. ive been doing the session’s for 15 minutes 3 times a week for the last 3 weeks and i am now able to fit into clothes that were too small for me last month!! i have also managed to loose 5ib which was a bonus as its more for toning your wabbly bits and loosing inches rather than loosing weight.