Post # 1
Is it okay that I may hate my dress?
We got engaged on New Year’s Eve and I waited 5 years for that day. I was so excited! I made an appointment to go look at dresses at the end of January with the intention that I was just going to find what I liked and I’d go back in a couple months and buy it.
I thought my dream dress was just a really simple, plain dress that I could dress up with jewelry. We’re getting married in an old mansion in the mountains in December so I wanted to keep it simple so the beauty of the venue and the scenery wasn’t “overshadowed” (Does that make sense? This venue is GORGEOUS).
Well, when I went to try on dresses in January, I tried one on and it was perfect and I cried so I bought it. I knew I bought it early but I was so in love with it and it was everything I wanted. Now, I have been rethinking if that was what I wanted and if I want something “more.”
So, what do you think? Is it too late? Is there a way I can really dress it up with jewelry or am I better off just buying a new dress?
Post # 2
Re-read what you just wrote and then read your title. You wanted a simple dress you could dress up with jewelry that fits with your venue. You loved the dress so much you cried when you bought it and were in love with it and it “was everything that you wanted.” Now you think you hate it??? Don’t question your gut instinct. The dress is lovely, you look amazing, it exactly fits with your venue and your vision. Get online and find some amazing jewelry and stop second guessing yourself. I, personally, prefer the understated look. Any dress looks beautiful if the person looks beautiful in it
Post # 3
I completely understand where you are coming from. When my ex and I were talking about eloping, I ordered a simple Ann Taylor sheath for $120. It felt perfect for an elopement. That relationship dissolved (fortunately) and that dress needs to be sold.
After my fiance proposed, I bought a gorgeous dress for a steal on preowned wedding dresses. It had zero embellishment except for ruching. Gorgeous again, but it was what I thought I wanted before I tried anything on. I also realized how hot I would be in the dress for my July wedding. Ruched satin = lots of heavy fabric. I had a hard time walking and I was sweaty from just trying it on.
Finally, I sucked it up, realized that a wedding gown was a neccessity not an option for the type of wedding we were having and upped my budget. I bought a gorgeous gown that is somewhere between a ball gown and an aline with beaded bodice and an organza/embroidered lace overlay skirt. I finally feel like my dress matches my venue.
That said, your dress has good bones. Mine were not the right shape or style entirely.
I’m sure that you could dress it up or have a seamstress add embellishment. Maybe make the neckline sweetheart and add beaded trim or lace/beading from the belt up? or a layer of tulle or lace on the bottom layer of the skirt? A blingy belt could be sewn on and you could go with a fabulous cathedral veil.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I like your dress. I also see a lot of potential. Have you considered an over the top sparkly headpiece/tiara? A tiara is definitely something that belongs in a castle.
Post # 5
angyjaxon: One of my friends suggested the same thing. I’ve considered it. I think I have to do something “big” like a tiara or something because I don’t have a veil but I’m afraid it will make the dress look even more plain…
Post # 6
If you really hate the dress, you can certainly get something new with 3 months time. I bought a new dress a month before my wedding (the original dress I bought from a store closeout ended up needing to be completely redone to the tune of $2k and that I couldn’t handle when I paid less than that for the dress). It will have to be off the rack, but there’s a lot of great stuff you can walk out the store with.
I think your dress is more on the plain side, but that seems to be what you wanted. Are you looking at other dresses still? I found it really helped to stop checking out dresses once I bought one… You can definitely dress it up with some fab jewelry. Or maybe even a blingy/lace bolero. Good luck!
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2016 - Charleston, SC
What about a lace bolero or some type of jacket to dress it up? It would certainly be fitting for a wintery mountain wedding!
Post # 8
How about changing up the belt to something more sparkly?
Post # 9
PookeyLovesBee: I think some bling in the accessories will do the trick! I’d feel a bit strange in a tiara too, but perhaps some kind of gorgeous jewelled hair comb? The other thing that comes to mind is changing the sash to something sparkly. You could also go big with the earrings if that suits you… Some vintage chandelier earrings would be nice.
The other thing that I’m thinking is that you may be able to add a crinoline slip underneath to poof it out more if you like. Also, makeup and hair style will function as accessories. I’m thinking some beautiful fresh faced makeup sould make you look like a princess: big full lashes and glowing skin, a fresh pink lip. It looks like your hair has that colour variance that looks so fantastic in a romantic braided/twisted updo.
All that said, if you are ABSOLUTELY POSITIVE that you want something “more”, we won’t be upset with you! Promise. You can change it if that makes you happy. It’s going to be ok!
Post # 10
I think your dress suits you, especially based on your original vision. I would just switch to a blingy belt to fit the winter theme.
Post # 11
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
PookeyLovesBee: I don’t think it will make the dress any different. I do however think your entire look will change. You can always try one on. The cost may be cheaper than a new dress and give you some confidence in your look. I think you just need a little extra pizzazz.
Post # 12
PookeyLovesBee: maybe change the belt? I wouldn’t go with a tiara…they look tacky IMO. Unless you’re kate middleton. A headband would be a better alternative.
You could try on others to see if you like any better. With 3 months, you’d have to buy the sample though.
Post # 13
PookeyLovesBee: You could add an embellished bolero or wrap maybe? That would definitely change the look.
Post # 14
I think what I would do with that dress is simar to what seeker suggested – I would have a layer of lighter fabric as an over skirt – and follow the lines of the skirt. So basically, you’d have one layer over the skirt and one layer over the wrap, if that makes sense? I might consider chiffon or georgette over tulle, but that’s me. Then a blingy belt. And maybe alter the neckline.
I like the boleros, too. If you go that route, I would add the layers, but skip the bling belt (keep it simple with satin/tulle/chiffon) and add some appliqués/embellishments to the skirt to tie it in.
Oh, and yes to a crinoline.
Whatever you choose, using the simplicity as a canvas for making it your very own is exciting!!
Post # 15
To be honest, I’m not a big fan of this dress. I don’t think you need to worry at all about a dress overshadowing the beauty of the venue. Maybe huge centerpieces or crazy lighting can overshadow a venue’s beauty, but not a dress.
The dress is so plain that there is only so much you could do with jewelry, so if you would feel beautiful in something different I would find a new dress. It’s not too late if you are committed to shopping around a bit and buying samples. Another alternative to samples would be to buy from http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com, if you are okay with buying a new dress, because then there is no delay for the dress to be made.