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FI and I are footing the entire bill ourselves. We didn't even think to ask anyone else. We can do what we want and how we want without having anyone in our faces (well, so we thought). So, who's picking up the tab for your big day?
My dad was able to pay for the majority of our wedding.
I voted for my parents, but my FI parents will be paying for some things as well. My parents will pay for the majority of the food, decor, my dress, entertainment etc. My FI parents are paying for the rehersal dinner and all alcohol/bartending fees. Photography will probably be split between the two parents.
We paid for the majority of it ourselves, but we had a little help from each set of parents.
Mostly my parents, though we'll probably pay for like 1/4 to 1/3 of the total costs. His parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner.
My parents paid for it...I didn't ask them though...they offered. We picked up some miscellanous things (limo, transportation for guests, rings, grooms attire, church, ceremony music, honeymoon, my shoes, my hair and makeup...) DH's mother paid for our rehearsal dinner. We were very fortunate!
We are funding 120 guest which are our family and friends. Our parent's have to pay for their friends since both the Mister and I haven't either met or seen our parents' friends in over 10 years.
We're paying for the entire weekend. We're both in our late 20s and have been on our own since college. I felt a little silly asking my mommy & daddy to foot the bill - I'm a Big Girl now=)
We are paying for it, with about an equal contribution from my parents. His parents are going to help, but we don't know how much yet.
I voted for both sets of parents but FI and I are contributing a bit as well, though it is not remotely close to what my parents are paying (the majority) or what his parents are paying (RD, half the music, maybe some flowers). FI and I are taking care of the wedding party expenses and we put the deposit down on our venue.
Maybe I am being overly sensitive, but please be mindful of those whose parents did pay for their wedding...
I didn't "ask mommy and daddy" to foot the bill for our wedding. They worked extremely hard in their lives and wanted to pay for our wedding. My husband and I are almost 30 and are financially stable, and could have paid for the wedding ourselves had my parents not offered.
I am fortunate that my parents are paying for the majority of our wedding. FI and I are paying for some extras such as a cocktail bands and lighting.
I never asked my parents to pay for our wedding it was just always talked about since I was little that they would pay for my wedding.
My parents are paying for most, Fi's mom is chipping in, and we are paying for photography.
Majority was us and my parents. His parents paid for the alcohol, Ethnic groom's cake and the Rehersal dinner.
I'm a big girl too, with a big girl job, but my parents are contributing most of the funds for our wedding and FI's parents are paying for the rest. FI and I are contributing a bit as well. Our parents offered and wanted to do this for us; had they said that they didn't want to, then FI would have found a way to pay for it ourselves.
To be honest, I think if FI and I had paid for the wedding ourselves, I would have avoided many of the arguments with my mother that have all ended in "Cancel the wedding!".
My FI....except for my attire...b/c that's how we roll =) But if my parents wanted to foot the bill...I would happily let them.
My parents are contributing about half, FI's parents are buying the cake and taking care of the rehearsal dinner. We are paying (scrimping and saving!!) for the rest!
my parents are paying for about 2/3 and his parents 1/3. We didn't ask for it per se, but I know that it's something that they wanted to do. we're so grateful for this gift for sure!
@ Erindesmar, I agree, I was just thinking the same thing. My FI and I both have great jobs, own our home, etc. I did not ask or expect my parents to pay for our wedding, they just want to. I offer to pay for certain things, and my mom and dad as well as my FI parents insist that they pay. I feel very fortuante and blessed!
My parents are generously paying for the majority of the wedding. We are chipping in for some aspects such as photography.
my parents paid for about 75% of the wedding costs and we covered the rest. His parents paid for rehearsal dinner and a hometown reception, which I thought was totally generous!
My FI and I are paying between 15 - 20k of our own money, and my parents are giving 5k.
I wish either of our parents had the funds to help with the wedding. I know they would if they could (and we'd GLADLY take it!) but I think we've always known we'd need to foot the bill for our own party.
My parents and us... my parents bought bonds when I was very little and they all matured when I was about 18ish, their plan the whole time was this was for my wedding or first home, which ever came first. Well since FI owns his own home it's for our wedding. It's an amazing feeling and I'm happy to say FI and I will be doing this for each of our kids too. I think in total the bonds when bought were about 5000 the payout was over 12k. It's a good investment :o)
@ AzinAugust, that is a wondeful idea, and it worked out great for you and your parents!! I need to remember that when I have children.
My parents are contributing about 15%, his parents are contributing about 15% and we are covering the rest. We both have great jobs and are established so did not approach either set of parents for help with the wedding. Graciously they all independently offered to contribute. We feel very blessed!
My parents - and they were WONDERFUL about it. They made it very clear to us that there were no strings attached and that we had complete planning control. It was true - they happily supported all our decisions.
my parents, and my mom would really rather not have much to do with the planning so it's definitely a gift, not them taking control of our wedding. my fi's parents are doing alcohol and rd.
I wasn't saying anything was wrong with parents who are paying for the wedding. That's awesome..I was only saying that we didn't ask because we wanted to do it ourselves.
I really like the bond idea.
We are paying for 85-90% ourselves (including rehearsal dinner costs), and the 3 sets of parents are pretty much splitting the remaining 10-15%. My parents are giving us items more than cash (like designing/printing our STDs, and we are getting our hydrangea centerpiece flowers from their garden), and the cash his mom and dad have given us has been given without strings, which is nice.
My parents are paying too; I don't think it makes us any less mature, capable or adult. Our extra income goes towards paying off student loans (because I paid my own way through school), and saving. We'd rather have something built up to start married life with than spend all of our savings on the wedding.
When we started talking marriage, I was honest with my parents, and asked whether they'd consider contributing. They came back a few days later with a very generous offer that was higher than I expected. We are extremely grateful to them, and their gift of our wedding will allow us to start married life in a financially stable position, rather than starting over on our savings the way we would have to if we paid for this wedding ourselves.
Knowing I'm spending someone else's money has also helped me keep our budget in check - if it was our money, I'd be a lot quicker to be like, "oh, I guess we can spend more," but knowing it's a gift has helped me keep perspective. :)
My parents are payng for about 95% of it (we are taking care of guest transportation, the rehearsal dinner, photography, DJ, rings, other odds and ends). FI's parents are generously gifting us the honeymoon.
We couldn't be more appreciative to our parents they are doing so much for us to make it an unforgettable day.
my parents would if they could but they don't have it. I am the oldest and the other 2 are in college. My mom bought my dress and our last years christmas present from his mom was our photography deposit ($500). I am proud that we are paying for it ourselves, but sometimes I wish we didn't have to.
We footed majority of the bill. My parents helped with buying a few things (DJ, Alcohol,etc.) and my hubs mom and hubby helped with other aspects of the wedding. We were and still are so thankful for all the help from our family!
My mom and dad are covering about 85%, FI and I are covering the rest. FI's aunt is hosting the casual rehearsal BBQ.
It seems like everyone is throwing in money, lol. We're paying for some, my parents both offered a set amount, his parents offered to pay for some specific things, and some other relatives are pitching in here and there. We've been really blessed with such supportive families so no one person is overwhelmed with the cost. The only time we asked someone was after they offered, like "you said you wanted to pay for the dress, how much were you thinking for that?" And we always have tried to come in under budget on as much as we could.
We paid for 90% of the wedding. Both parents gave us about a thousand each. My parents paid for church related expenses and his parents paid for the liquor.
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