Post # 1
FI and I are trying to get a head start on wedding stuff, so we decided to make a list of wedding music. (It looks like we’ll be iPod DJing). The reception is from 5:30-9:30 and I want people to dance and have a good time (not that they can’t mingle if they want to).
The problem: FI is a HUGE music snob. He ONLY listens to classic rock/metal. THAT IS IT. So, I was coming up with songs we can dance to (pop, rap, etc.) and he began sulking and said ‘If you didn’t need my help, why did you ask me?’ To which I replied ‘Because it’s your wedding, too. Maybe you can come up with some ballads that you’d like to use as slow dance songs?’ A few minutes later, he began playing some metal songs from YouTube and completely ignored my suggestion.
I’ve tried compromising with him by adding music like “Pour Some Sugar on Me” by Def Leppard and “You Shook Me All Night Long” by AC/DC, but he’s still mad more of “his” music won’t be played. /: Um… I like classic rock and metal, too, but I also like a lot of other types of music and I think he’s being ridiculous. A lot of our older guests won’t appreciate our wedding being a metal concert.
What do you think? Suggestions? Any advice would be appreciated.
Post # 3
Haha.. sounds like my FH! He ONLY listens to alternative rock, while I listen to virtually everything. Luckily, he actually brought up the point that the music played is really for your guests to enjoy and dance to.. not really all about the couple’s choices. You can tell your man that these suggestions you offered up are more “dance friendly”.. and meanwhile, you can appease him by playing his choices while the courses are being served… or meeting/greeting your guests.. or cutting of the cake?
Post # 4
@futuremrsndl: Ask him if he’d be open to some cover versions that are more dance-able. Try to find some songs that are things he likes that are universally liked – even if it’s rock, if it’s something everyone loves to sing along with, people will still dance to it.
Post # 5
I would remind him that the hallmark of a fun reception is a full dance floor, and there’s a lot of metal and classic rock that simply isn’t danceable for most people.
I appreciate that he wants to reflect his tastes in the wedding, but a good host (and that’s what you are during your reception–hosts) plans with the enjoyment of their guests in mind.
To sulk about it when you’re trying to work with him seems rather juvenille.