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I would personally go to the hotel...you will have many, many nights at home!
We stayed at the hotel. It meant we could leave the party when we wanted to, and we didn't have to travel anywhere completely exhausted. We did get married in a different city, but I think we would have done the same thing if we got married here.
The jacuzzi, chocolate covered fruit and champagne in the hotel was a bonus!
If you really want to go home, then do that, I just don't know why you want to!
If the hotel is offering a free night, I say jump on that offer!
Hello Jess,
Your fist time can be somewhat nerve wracking in general. Try talking to your FI about what both of your concerns are. If you both share what your concerns are and help support each other then you may be able to make a clear decision as to where you want to spend your first night together. Also, try to keep in mind you will be with your husband and that will be more important then where you are. Good luck and congratulations.
Well I guess the first time being special was the we should be at home but I not sure it it matter too much to me.
@CantWaitToWedMr.B: thanks soo much good advice and yes that does matter more. I think we will talk about it more once its closer to the day. Thankss : )
I vote hotel!
We are in the same boat as you (both virgins), and it certainly is nervewracking! We're doing a hotel simply because our reception is being held at our home, and how awkward would that be? "Hey - thanks for coming, we're going to go have sex now".
Also, chances are your home will be a little bit messy from all wedding related stuff, and I don't think anyone wants to think about cleaning it the night of their wedding. Plus at the hotel you can leave the next morning without even making a bed!
@ceamoste:hahahaha how funny yeah that would be ackward. Ur right we probably will have a messy home. All these comments really help. Thanks so much.
By home do you mean new place you'll be sharing (I'm assuming you're not living together) or one of your families homes? Because I can only see being in a place where other relatives are as extremely awkward.
Either way I still vote hotel, that way if you really mess up the sheets, towels, etc you won't have to clean them up. A little bit of added luxury...
Hotel, hotel, hotel! I am sure the hotel will provide champagne and chocolates to you, as well. It will be a nice little perk to leave the hectic reception and go to your quiet hotel room and relax a little before (or even if) you guys decide to experience your first time there. Trust me, you will have plenty of time to enjoy each other at home in the future. Honestly, I know a lot of people who don't end up making love on their wedding night due to sleepiness or having drank too much. Maybe you guys won't even have sex that night, then you could have your first time at home the following evening.
I think people are rooting for hotel because that's traditionally where you think of wedding night sex.
But where would you be more comfortable? If your home relaxes you that might be the better option. If you've always pictured being in a hotel then do that.
If you want your first night to be at home, do that!
@JerseyGirlLaur:Yeah we plan to buy a new home together. Thanks for the advice.
@jedeve: yeah that's what our friends keep telling us all we'll want to do is sleep. Ok so I shouldn't worry thanks for the feedback bees 
We planned on going home then last min. went and paid for a hotel room. SO GLAD WE DID! Honestly, it was more special to us than being at home. It made our "wedding night" more real in a weird way. We were able to check in together and it was a great start to the honeymoon! We stayed at home the night before we left (got married Sat. and left on Mon. morn) and it was nice to "come home" together the next day, relaxed, rested, married, and renewed. We, like you, were virgins on our wedding night and we didn't even plan on doing anything... we just decided we would just wait and see... well... we went from "just going to bed" to that only lasting about.. oh... no time. haha. The best advice I can give though is wherever you plan on going... make sure there's some lube in your night bag. In all the virgin wedding night advice I got no one ever told me to bring lube... and it makes a huge difference.. we actually stopped by a drug store before going home to make sure we had some on our honeymoon. haha
i vote hotel as well! My FH and I considered going home.... and may still do that... but realized we will be very tired and what better way to unwind (even without sex if we so choose)... than to have a lovely big tub and soak for a while and have a nice breakfast the next day. Sounds like a perfect pampering after a huge day to me! :)
We both talked about it but ultimately felt that at the end of the day we wanted to come home. We're getting married at 11:00 & will leave the reception around 2:00. We really want to be able to spend those first hours together as husband and wife at home, even if we're only sleeping we want to have those first memories in our bed. We'll have a week of amazing hotel sleep/sex on our honeymoon.
I agree with the PP's who say to do what makes you the most comfortable. If you are uncomfortable with the idea of having your first night as man and wife in the hotel, then have it at home. If you are worried about relatives and friends possibly making unannounced calls, stay at the hotel. I know that this isn't much help, but just sit down with your FI and talk about your expectations for the first night and where you think you would be the most comfortable.
I vote the hotel! I also contomplated this for a while. But I think you are going to have the rest of your lives at home.
You've probably already made your decision, but here's my two cents (because I was in the EXACT same boat as you, except for the free room, which would have been awesome).
I went with the hotel (we actually did a vacation rental for two nights before leaving for our honeymoon). There's just something sexy and mysterious (not to mention special) about a hotel room that just gets you in the mood. We were still staying in the same town as our home, so we were able to wander around town and have a "staycation" while still feeling like honeymooning tourists.
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Soo we are both young 25 and we would like our 1st night to be at home but the hotel gives us a night there anyway what do u thinK? Most of our friends said not to worry too much that we will be pretty tired soo it wont matter. Anyway were both virgins so its a little nerve wrecking they should say more about this at church.