Wedding No-Shows – And No-Explanations!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I’m really sorry that so many people didn’t come to your wedding after responding ‘yes.’ It absolutely sucks that you spent money on people that didn’t show. Like you said, you can’t always know what’s going on in someone else’s life. Maybe they haven’t said anything because they’re embarassed, or maybe they’re insensitive. Whatever the case may be, you don’t really have a choice but to let it go. You could ease them out of your life if you don’t care for the friendships anymore, but I don’t think that I would. You could also put them on the spot by expressing your regret that they were not able to come, and ask if they’re OK. Again, I wouldn’t, but I can understand wanting to do so.

As time goes on, I hope that you have fond memories of your day and sharing it with those who were there. Hopefully these memories will outshine the shadows of those who didn’t show. 

Post # 4
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1294 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had alot of my friends and family who had RSVPd and did not show up. I was actually kind of mad because we were on a tight budget. Needless to say, I now know who are the people I can count on to show up no matter what. Looking back, I am glad I got to share my special day with those friends and family.

Post # 5
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652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

That’s rude of them. 

Try not to focus on them, focus on all the people who were there and love and care about you so much!  

Post # 6
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Aphelion:  That sucks!  I would feel hurt also.  I would totally confront them, but that is my personality.  Who cares if they think you’re pushy?  I would imagine the friendships/etc are potentially at risk regardless.  We had people that never RSVP’d who we had to harass about things, and DH’s grandma went nuts at her own family who hadn’t RSVP’d and then said they weren’t coming (after she promised us they were), however, they showed up.  We had a bunch of people leave after the ceremony, which I think is totally messed up because we had paid for them for the reception and if they told us, that would’ve been NBD, but then we had to pay for them.

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