Post # 1
My fiance and I are having a difficult time on the guest list. For one we are not trying to spend alot of money. I have a large family, he has a large family and we both have a large circle of friends. There are some family members that I dont really care to have on our special day. Would it be ok if we invite everyone to the ceremony which we are planning on having on the beach and whomever shows to the ceremony will get an invite card for lunch? Is this tacky?
Post # 3
So you are afraid that people will only show up to the reception and not the ceremony?
Post # 4
@soulyalma: if they care about your actual wedding vs. just the party and free food they’ll show up. That’s the family you want to be there with you. A reception is just a bonus and while common, not required. It would be polite to have some kind of food though. Maybe ask close family, like parents, or best friends to help prepare some picnic style foods? You don’t need formal catering if you’re on a budget.
Post # 5
@soulyalma: A reception is where you “receive” and thank your guests for attending your ceremony and celebrating/supporting your wedding. Anyone you invite to your ceremony should be invited to your reception too, if that is what you are asking.
Post # 6
@soulyalma: That’s tough. How close are your families…is”Aunt Sally” going to call “Aunt Susan” and tell her how excited she is for your wedding and reception and “Aunt Susan” then realizes she wasn’t invited to the reception?
I say invite the people who have supported you and who really mean a lot to both of you.