wedding on a budget

posted 2 years ago in Money
Post # 2
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

It’s crazy on how much wedding vendors charge. I know when we first spoke about what we wanted and set a budget for $10,000, we went looking and we knew we had to increase it. We settled on $20,000 and are actually right about 23,000 and trying to economize where we could. There were certain things we did not want to deal with so we did decide to pay a little more for what was included. Regrets, not at all.  Just start shopping around and get lots of quotes from vendors then the 2 of you sit down and decide. 

I know the budget planner on the knot.com really helped me alot in what amount is suggested for what expense. There are a LOT of little things you don’t think of initially that really add up. 

Post # 3
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1119 posts
Bumble bee

We worked out how much we could save per month and how soon we wanted to be married.  We then wrote the guest list and found a venue that could do the type of wedding we want with the number of people we wanted there.  We were lucky that it all worked out but we also had the option to either move the date back or down grade to a different venue if we’d wanted. 

Post # 4
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42460 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

SeaRhapsody:  You can host a wedding with as big or as small a budget as you can afford. It’s only the details that will change_ the number of guests, the type of meal, the time of day, the day of week, the venue etc.

Instead of letting the wedding dictate the budget, I strongly encourge you to let the budget dictate the wedding. Decide how much you choose to spend on this day, then make decisions that allow you to have a wedding for that amount.

The important parts of the wedding are the things that cost the least- the bride and groom with a license being married by an officiant. All the rest is gilding the lily.

Post # 5
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We really tried to do it on a budget, but it’s hard to do in Southern California.  If we’d kept the guest list at 100, it would’ve been around 40k.  We ended up with 150 and the total is at around 55. For a discounted Friday wedding. But if you’re way more careful than us, you can do it.

Post # 6
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866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Where I live it’s almost impossible to have a formal standard wedding for under 25k, and that’s with everything being pretty basic, like no over the top flowers or super amazing food. You can absolutely have a less conventional wedding much cheaper however! So pick you budget and then see what fits, u might be plesently surprised with how cheap some things u want actually are, but also have sticker shock with others lol.  Just remember bridal magazines are fun to look at but you need to take them at face value (they are one big paid for ad basically) , you could spend thousands on things no one realistically has or does except those people who are really really well off with tons of money to spare, or those who succumb to the pressure of these ads. I seriously don’t understand spending money on some things, we are pretty well off so could afford to go a little crazy but I just don’t want to or feel the need. Like having invitations hand written in calligraphy! Why? So they can go in the trash? (No offence to anyone doing this, I would just rather write them myself and use thaT Left over money for some new shoes ;)) there are so many things to throw away money on, and so much pressure to have those things. don’t let it get to you, have the wedding You want and just prioritize what its important to you And skip on the things that really aren’t. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  BWLE.
Post # 7
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Newbee

SeaRhapsody:  FI and I were very worried about the same thing when we started creating our budget. We sat down, figured out how much we were willing to spend (we are paying for it ourselves $3k budget) and talked about what was important to us on our day. We want an intimate event with great food. So, in October we are having 20 guests to the wedding and we having a nice lunch after at our favorite restaurant. The other details are falling into place, right?.. and if they don’t..well I can’t say I care because by then I will be married to my best friend!

Just remember what’s important! You and your future husband! Enjoy!

Post # 8
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

SeaRhapsody:  Brides had a horrid advice reply in an issue a few months ago. I threw the magazine in the trash. Ugh. Bridal magazines and I are not super friends. haha

Post # 11
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1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

SeaRhapsody:  My best piece of advice- look at the pretty magazines, dream a bunch, then throw them out and plan your wedding.  The budgets are so unrealisitic that they are laughable.  Your ideal budget is one that works for you and that’s that.  How you go about determining that is up to you.  Look at what you can realistically afford (not counting on other’s promises and offers because those can evaportate), figure out what’s most important to you and get creative.

Post # 12
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

SeaRhapsody:  Do it…it is very freeing! hahaha <3 

but yeah, someone wrote in to ask about how to word their invite. They wanted everyone to wear white and the reply to the woman was that she was basically a selfish bitch and shouldn’t do that. haha *sigh* Its like, if you do not like her question, don’t publish it with your bitchy answer. Ugh. 

Do you have a local wedding magazine? We have Portland Monthly here in Oregon and it is fantastic for realistic weddings and of course local vendors. 

Post # 13
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3693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You can get married for the cost of your marriage license (in our case, $95). You can get married for under $1000 by serving cake and punch to your guests in a short reception after your wedding ceremony. Weddings don’t have to be expensive.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

SeaRhapsody:  yeah, I think its crazy when girls on here call themselves Budget Brides… but theyr’re spending 10k, 20k, even 30k! That is NOT a budget bride.

I, however, am a Budget Bride. Our whole wedding is coming in under $2,000. And we’re even having about 120 guests. My dress is a brand new sample gown I got for $25, my invitations were donated from Target to Goodwill with the original price tag saying $60 and I got them for $5, bridesmaids dresses were on sale from $140 to $20 each, venue is only $300, free hair (aunt is a pro stylist), free makeup (bff is a pro MUA), all gifts were $10 or below (originally $30+ each), etc!

It is totally do-able to be a budget bride!

Post # 15
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Newbee

LeonardLady:  This is my kind of budget bride! Everything is falling into place for you very nicely! I feel that is happening to me, too.

SeaRhapsody: When you put out into the world that you are a budget bride- the world says, “okay!” and sends you tons of deals! Hehe!

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