Post # 1
My fiance and I found the PERFECT venue at the perfect price and they only have one Saturday available left in our month of choice. Of course it happens to fall on my dad’s birthday.
I’m really close with my dad, not to mention that my parents are paying for a pretty big chunk of our wedding. I am SO grateful to them, and the last thing I want to do is overshadow my dad’s birthday! He wants us to pick the date, he has zero problem with sharing his birthday with our wedding date, and I actually think he would be sad if we picked another day on account of this. I told him we would have to sing happy birthday to him and he was adamant that this day be about me and Fiance, and that we not mention his b-day at all (which would totally not happen, if we DO get married on his birthday, there WILL be singing!!).
Still, I’m feeling worried about it. My dad’s side of the family is a little funny about birthdays (they like to celebrate ON the day, it can’t be a day later or earlier) and I’m afraid my relatives might be a little PO’ed. On top of that, I’m a little wary of having our anniversaries share the same day as my dad’s birthday. Not that we will need to celebrate our anniversary ON the day every year (except for the big ones, I’m fine celebrating the weekend of or whatnot), and not that my dad is fussy about celebrating his birthday ON the day of either.
I guess I just don’t want to steal his birthday from him.
What do you guys think?
Post # 3
@LilySarah: if your dad doesn’t have a problem with it, do it. some people really don’t mind sharing “their” day with someone. i’ve been to a wedding on my bday, no problem. i enjoyed spending my bday with friends.
Post # 4
@LilySarah: I would go ahead and book the date. Your Dad is fine with it. As you grow older, birthdays really aren’t that big a deal.
I agree with you though, that I would honor his birthday at the wedding.
Post # 5
I think as people get older they don’t really care about their birthdays anymore, except milestone birthdays. It seems like he is ok with it, so I don’t see a problem with it, honestly. Anniversaries are usually something you celebrate just between the two of you so honestly it probably won’t even create many issues in the future.
Post # 6
I don’t see a problem and especially if your Dad doesn’t see a problem then go for that date. I think it’s a nice gesture for you to sing him happy birthday, I don’t think that would take the spotlight off your wedding day at all.
Post # 7
If your dad is happy with the wedding on his birthday, I think your extended family will follow suit. What better birthday gift than to see his daughter married? I could see some great photo opps if you had a separate cake made for him during the reception.
The only thing I’d consider is how to celebrate your anniversary in the future. If your family does like to be together for birthdays, this would make it tougher to go out of town or on a vacation for your anniversary. Picking a different date would provide more flexibility for your future plans if that’s what you want.
Post # 8
If you’re dad is encouraging you, don’t worry about it. 🙂 Have your baker make an extra birthday cake for him, have a place near your gift table for birthdya presents, and just make sure that during yrou reception, people feel free to aknowledge the fact that two wonderful events are going on at the same time. 🙂 I tihnk it would be a nice memory for him!
Post # 9
My first wedding was in 1989 and I chose my dad’s birthday … he was really honored!
Post # 10
I’m 27 and couldn’t care less about my birthday. I’m sure he would be fine with it, especially if you’re super close. I think my stepdad would love it if my wedding were on his bday.
ETA : I think doing something to acknowledge his birthday at the wedding would be very sweet though
Post # 11
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@LilySarah: My BFF had her wedding on her dad’s birthday and she sang him happy birthday with all the guests as a surprise – it was very cute! I say go for it!
Post # 12
If your dad is ok with it, that’s all that matters. Don’t worry about what his side of your family might think. You get one wedding day, and birthdays come every year. I think it is really nice of your dad to be supportive of you picking that date. If he doesn’t want his birthday acknowledged on the actually wedding so you and Fiance can have your day, what about a cake for him at the rehersal dinner?
Post # 13
I don’t see a problem with it.
Post # 14
I think it’s fine. As others have said as the years go by you care less and less about birthdays. I mean, I love having a nice dinner and getting presents but if someone had their weddiing on my birthday I wouldn’t care at all.
Post # 15
Sorry to disagree with PPs, but I *personally* wouldn’t do it. However, that doesn’t mean YOU shouldn’t do it. I know my dad and family would give me crap about it forever. That’s just my kooky family though–if you are positive your dad honestly wouldn’t mind, then I think you should go for it.
Post # 16
I got married on my dads bday. We celebrated his bday (cake and presents the night before). At the reception a song came on about birthdays and all my friends pulled him on the dance floor and made him dance which turned into everyone singing happy birthday. He was also the only person I allowed to request a song since it was his bday (he had them play my parents wedding song).
My fear was it would be our wedding date in the future and no longer his bday but we just visit him during the day and go out to dinner at some point. I think he feels special sharing the day with us 🙂