(Closed) wedding or elope

posted 4 years ago in Elopement
Post # 3
Hostess
13662 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Lots of our WB ladies have eloped. Let me bump this up for you and see if anyone can help you out! 🙂 I’ll also move it to the “Elopement” boards. Hope this helps!

Post # 4
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Munchkinnn:  We are going to elope and then have an intimate party when we return. We didnt like that everyone wanted different things or had different thoughts on everything and we wanted the day to be about us getting married not having to please or take care of other people. We saw it as an intimate moment between us. We have debated not eloping and just doing a traditional wedding lately but if we do that we will have a ceremony earlier that same day just us and the officiant in a private place so we still get to just be us. Do what makes you happy, but see if they will come around to the idea of Bali with time. Bali has always been my dream for a wedding so I would say just go for it if its what you want and makes your day perfect

Post # 5
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6125 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Munchkinnn:  We eloped – well a private wedding with two legal witneses who we knew.

 

We did an 11 day, 2500 mile road trip from Utah to Canada and got married on our trip.  Talk about stree FREE, realxing, fun, adventurous and just plain perfect.   I have no regrets.  We’re going back to the area for our 2nd anniversary.

Post # 6
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62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m in the process of planning a “traditional” wedding.  I wish we’d eloped.  We should have.  We were thinking about it, we’ve even been to Vegas twice since getting engaged (to make wedding plans, ironically).

From where I am now, I think that unless you are absolutely certain you DO want a “real” wedding, or you are absolutely certain that elopment is NOT what you want…. do it.

Post # 7
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1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Munchkinnn:  if that’s what you want I say do it. I “eloped” courthouse without telling anyone the first time and had an intimate ceremony(7ppl) this time (mainly for my step kids sake-wanted to involve them)

Post # 9
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104 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

@Munchkinnn:  I hear you.. I have always wanted the fairy tale wedding and actually I think that is what my parents expect of me…

 

I havent told anyone about my engagement yet except a very close friend – The thought of having a wedding now just does not seem practical. 

For FI, it is his second wedding so he doesnt want to make it a big deal.  His parents live out in the country, far inland and won’t come to Sydney for us to marry where we live…  My parents are in Montreal and mum is too sick to travel, so my parents can’t be there.  I told FI that if he really wants to get marrie in the country so at least one of our sets of parents can be there, then thats fine… but he wont accept that as he feels that its unfair that his parents be there when mine can’t…FI can’t travel to Canada so there is no possibility of that – or in meeting in the USA….

 

So I have been thinking of eloping – not at all what I had ever thought of myself doing.But I guess its the only thing left for us… I still want the dress and to feel like a princess, but a bit different…

 

I am just not sure if my parents should be told I am engaged and getting married.  I am worried that they might get angry if I dont say anything, but also KNOW that they cannot keep it to themselves!!!

 

What is everyone else doing?

Post # 11
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3316 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

An elopement is a wedding.  And these days, an “elopement” often includes at least a few close relatives or friends.  So the question is not really an elopement versus a wedding–it’s how big a wedding you want.  If you think of it that way, rather than only in extremes of “no guests at all” versus “everyone we or our parents ever knew,” it may be easier to figure out what you actually want.

Post # 12
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7879 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Munchkinnn:  So what is your mother’s problem? Is it that she doesn’t want to travel to Bali? Remember if you have the wedding in Bali then you are asking everyone to spend a lot of money (I’m guessing over $1000 each) just to attend your wedding.

The problem with eloping is that your parents have probably dreamed for 20+ years of seeing you married. I’m a mother and I’d be very sad to miss any of my children’s weddings.

I suggest you do a small intimate wedding locally, and then honeymoon in Bali. By intimate I mean only your immediate families, grandparents, and perhaps a couple of close friends. They are the only people who *really* want to see your wedding. That way you keep it fairly cheap, you still get to wear the white dress, it’s not hard for your families… and then you can enjoy Bali by yourselves.

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