Post # 1
hi im new to the form just wondering if anyone out there has eloped?
im half planning a destiantion wedding in bali for late next year, but starting to think with all the dramas of my mother hating the idea and my fi family loving the idea if it would just be better to just go the two of us and not tell anyone till after is done.
any ideas girls?
Post # 3
Lots of our WB ladies have eloped. Let me bump this up for you and see if anyone can help you out! 🙂 I’ll also move it to the “Elopement” boards. Hope this helps!
Post # 4
@Munchkinnn: We are going to elope and then have an intimate party when we return. We didnt like that everyone wanted different things or had different thoughts on everything and we wanted the day to be about us getting married not having to please or take care of other people. We saw it as an intimate moment between us. We have debated not eloping and just doing a traditional wedding lately but if we do that we will have a ceremony earlier that same day just us and the officiant in a private place so we still get to just be us. Do what makes you happy, but see if they will come around to the idea of Bali with time. Bali has always been my dream for a wedding so I would say just go for it if its what you want and makes your day perfect
Post # 5
@Munchkinnn: We eloped – well a private wedding with two legal witneses who we knew.
We did an 11 day, 2500 mile road trip from Utah to Canada and got married on our trip. Talk about stree FREE, realxing, fun, adventurous and just plain perfect. I have no regrets. We’re going back to the area for our 2nd anniversary.
Post # 6
I’m in the process of planning a “traditional” wedding. I wish we’d eloped. We should have. We were thinking about it, we’ve even been to Vegas twice since getting engaged (to make wedding plans, ironically).
From where I am now, I think that unless you are absolutely certain you DO want a “real” wedding, or you are absolutely certain that elopment is NOT what you want…. do it.
Post # 7
@Munchkinnn: if that’s what you want I say do it. I “eloped” courthouse without telling anyone the first time and had an intimate ceremony(7ppl) this time (mainly for my step kids sake-wanted to involve them)
Post # 8
its just hard, for aslong as i can remember ive always wanted the fairytale wedding big poofy dress and all, but when it comes down to it all i really want is to be married to him settle down and have a family. ( the place in in love with is blue point in bali).
i know my family will prob hate us if we elope tho im just lost
Post # 9
@Munchkinnn: I hear you.. I have always wanted the fairy tale wedding and actually I think that is what my parents expect of me…
I havent told anyone about my engagement yet except a very close friend – The thought of having a wedding now just does not seem practical.
For FI, it is his second wedding so he doesnt want to make it a big deal. His parents live out in the country, far inland and won’t come to Sydney for us to marry where we live… My parents are in Montreal and mum is too sick to travel, so my parents can’t be there. I told FI that if he really wants to get marrie in the country so at least one of our sets of parents can be there, then thats fine… but he wont accept that as he feels that its unfair that his parents be there when mine can’t…FI can’t travel to Canada so there is no possibility of that – or in meeting in the USA….
So I have been thinking of eloping – not at all what I had ever thought of myself doing.But I guess its the only thing left for us… I still want the dress and to feel like a princess, but a bit different…
I am just not sure if my parents should be told I am engaged and getting married. I am worried that they might get angry if I dont say anything, but also KNOW that they cannot keep it to themselves!!!
What is everyone else doing?
Post # 10
why do parents make thins so complicated….
I know everyone says to do what makes you happy which would make complete sense, but in the end its not that easy, you want them to be there well i know i do, but just not the drama and pain that comes along with it
Post # 11
An elopement is a wedding. And these days, an “elopement” often includes at least a few close relatives or friends. So the question is not really an elopement versus a wedding–it’s how big a wedding you want. If you think of it that way, rather than only in extremes of “no guests at all” versus “everyone we or our parents ever knew,” it may be easier to figure out what you actually want.
Post # 12
@Munchkinnn: So what is your mother’s problem? Is it that she doesn’t want to travel to Bali? Remember if you have the wedding in Bali then you are asking everyone to spend a lot of money (I’m guessing over $1000 each) just to attend your wedding.
The problem with eloping is that your parents have probably dreamed for 20+ years of seeing you married. I’m a mother and I’d be very sad to miss any of my children’s weddings.
I suggest you do a small intimate wedding locally, and then honeymoon in Bali. By intimate I mean only your immediate families, grandparents, and perhaps a couple of close friends. They are the only people who *really* want to see your wedding. That way you keep it fairly cheap, you still get to wear the white dress, it’s not hard for your families… and then you can enjoy Bali by yourselves.
Post # 13
when i talk about elopement i mean just us no one else there.
shes doesnt think everyone in my family will go my family is tiny it consits of 6 people.
one of the place i LOVED in melb i later found out my fi parents got married there (that ended in divorce) and one of the girls i work with got married there… that just kinda took away the magic from that place. i cant really see how mums dreamed of it she wont even talk to me about it.