(Closed) Wedding or House?

posted 7 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
3142 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t think your acting spoiled at all.

My Fiance has been married before and I have not.  When I told him our Destination Wedding was at a certain amount he scoffed and said “my wedding with G didn’t even cost that!!”  I raised an eyebrow and took a deep breath and pointed out that considering the Army paid for half their wedding, that isn’t it impressive I’ve managed to budget a wedding that WE are paying for nearly the same amount?  lol 

Men are just clueless when it comes to wedding planning/costs.

My suggestion is sit down and go over actual costs of what you are going to have to pay for and create a compromise, so you can do the both. 

Also make it clear to him that you are over the moon about your one and only wedding to the man you love and it’s important to you for it to be a priority in life along with others.

Good luck!

Post # 4
3142 posts
Sugar bee


Post # 6
3142 posts
Sugar bee


Yay!! Thats awesome. Good for him.

Seriously, men just don’t think sometimes when they speak.

I’m happy it seems to be turning out for you!

Post # 8
14 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t think there should be any reason for you not to have your big day! As for me, we are having a wedding, we wanted a small one but we can’t really do that because his family and mine as well is so big, plus our friends. So we decided we are doing both. My parents are paying for everything, except i paid for my gown, which wasnt much. Nothing over 1000 and thats the way i wanted it to be. You only wear it once. But my mama and daddy are paying for the most part all of it. My fiance will be paying for the band. But I think it is a necessary that you have a wedding and like i said it doesn’t have to be an all out big thing. Just keep it plain and simple or if you want an extravagant wedding well you can, & still keep it under budget. The house is the tricky part for us. Everytime we look to buy something it’s always under contract so that is what we are facing now. But good luck to you maybe you might be able to change his mind! I sure hope so! 🙂

Post # 9
13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I don’t see why it has to be one or the other.  You can have a same wedding, keep a tight budget, and still have money to make a downpayment on a house.

When my parents got married, my grandpa offered my mom $5000 (a particularly good chunk of money at the time, especially with my dad just starting up his own business) to elope or go to the courthouse instead of having a wedding.  My mom told him that at some point in life, she and my dad would have $5000 but if they didn’t have a wedding now, they would never have another chance.

Even if having a wedding delaying buying a house for a year or something, you’d still be able to get a house, but you can never get back a wedding if you don’t have one.

Post # 10
79 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I’m in a similar situation regarding trying to save for a down payment on a house while also saving for a wedding.  My fiance and I decided we are just going to save as much money as possible to try and have enough for a down payment while still affording our dream wedding.  In reading various posts on here and on other wedding websites I have learned there are so many ways to save on your wedding while not compromising the quality you want.  =)

Post # 12
2246 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011


Congrats on your choice! Its tough

Post # 13
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sounds like a good solution! We’re young, and there’s definitely still time to do both. Congratulations!

The topic ‘Wedding or House?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors