Post # 1
So I’m coming here for advice. My fiancé and I are trying to plan a wedding or elopement (lol is that a word?). I’ve always dreamed about weddings and how mine would be. We’ve been engaged now for about 8 months, thank god, I couldn’t imagine trying to figure this out in one year. Ok, so I’ll jump to the point.
We’ve talked about having a wedding or going to get eloped then going to Europe. He wasn’t all about the Europe trip so we started planning the wedding. Once he saw all the prices he freaked out and now doesn’t want to do the wedding but now elope and have a party when we get back. He also isn’t one of those guys who like to be center of attention and is very casual.
Don’t get me wrong I want to go to Europe like a fat kid wants cake, but I also want a wedding. How can I have my cake and eat it too? I bought a dress already and we put a deposit on a venue. Ps the Venue is a cool diy space so we can use it for the party.. I thought maybe bring the dress to Europe and getting pictures done over there but would it be weird wearing the dress at the “party” as well? I have decorations so technically it would be a wedding. lol Im so confused on what to do.
How can I get married and get my dream trip? Im feeling sad that I have to pick one or the other.
Post # 2
I think you could: it depends mostly on which part of the wedding you really want. If you want a meaningful ceremony, with your closest relatives and friends, you can invite those people to the court-house or ask one of them to marry you in a small private ceremony. If you keep it at about 10-15 people, you can then serve brunch at home or go to a restaurant to celebrate. That’s a first chance to wear your dress. Then go to Europe – optionally, bring your dress along – and take pictures with or without dress (in my view, exploring European cities is much nicer in flats and if you don’t have to watch the hem of your dress). Finally, come back home and have a party (just don’t call it a wedding, otherwise some people will be upset) and a cake and wear your dress again.
Post # 3
i would elope go to europe then have a party when you came back..cant really have your cake and eat it too!:))
Post # 4
You should do both! Being married before the party will take the nervous pressure off of him. You should totally rock the dress at both the elopement and the party!!! That way you can have pictures of everything. To elope to Europe sounds super dreamy and you get to have a honeymoon there! It sounds amazing!!! Do it, do it, do it!
Post # 5
I think that eloping and then having a party whe you return is a totally normal thing to do. I don’t see why you couldn’t wear your dress twice– your party guests would probably want to see it anyways. I also don’t really see how you aren’t having a wedding if you elope. Invite close family to your elopement, that will be your wedding. Then your party, which is essentially a reception, will also be like a wedding because you’re celebrating your marriage with family and friends. I think you’re having your cake and eating it too. You get the best of both worlds: an intimate wedding and a big party. Who wouldn’t want both?
Post # 6
I also vote for eloping/honeymoon in Europe and then having a big party when you get home. That’s been my dream for years!
If you want to wear your dress twice, go for it!
Post # 7
I seriously could have written this post myself. We are agonising over the same decision. Some of our friends are going to Europe next year and we have always considered going with them. We got engaged in July and now we kinda have to decide where to spend our money. As we are funding the wedding ourselves and we don’t have close families we are considering eloping and having a party after. I don’t know if people are going to be upset by this choice. But to be honest, after working at a wedding reception venue for 3 years and seeing how it all plays out (i.e. think witnessing 3-4 weddings a weekend)– I just don’t think a big expensive wedding is for me. I know I will get many exciting memories from a trip with our friends and my fiancé… and knowing me and how I stress about things and how my partner hates big events – I just can’t see us enjoying a wedding more than a holiday… It’s a hard choice! But I think you will enjoy a party when you get back just as much as a big wedding – perhaps even a little more because you don’t have to stress too much… am interested to see which way you go!