Post # 1
I’ve reached a point where I think I’ve hit wedding overload. Never truly having been a "girly girl" I’ve never been overly excited about planning the wedding in the first place but knowing it was what everyone wanted, I gave in and took on the responsibility. I admit it has been fun picking out dresses, flowers, colors, venues. But now, as the time draws near…its beginning to wear on me. Perhaps its the stress…with practically every page I log on to is telling me in big bold letters: 62 days left! 62 days left! 62 days left! I think I’m having a wedding meltdown. I no longer get the same joy out of flipping through bridal magazines or even watching bridal shows on tv…no more. I’m even taking a vacation from planning the wedding! Much to everyone’s shock. Lucky, I’m marrying a great man who understands and has now taken over for me. He now tells me what to do…and I kinda like it. Stress is a lot less. But my mom doesn’t believe me when I say it was my own doing…she thinks my FI took over intentionally…to have his own way. Oh well. I’m glad for this little vacation…whether people believe me or not.
Has anyone else suffered from wedding overload??
Post # 3
Totally. I was just sitting here (and still am) thinking about it and I have slightly over 200 days left. I don’t have very many of my vendors booked yet and I’m really feeling run down. My coordinator’s automated reminder e-mails about a deadline coming up or passing haunts me.
I think it’s great that you’re taking a break and letting the manmeat take over. 😉 You really want to be able to enjoy all the hard work that has gone into this event and you can’t if you’re stressed and stretched out thinly before. 62 days will fly by SO quickly so just try to take thing easy now. However, don’t do something just because you think that it is expected and required. Do what YOU want, what you will enjoy most..Otherwise, I promise you won’t have a good time. You should enjoy the experience.
I have a bit of time off and I feel pressured to get everything done but I can’t make any decisions or whatnot until I get the A-OK from Mr. JCM. The problem is he’s always too busy, too tired, or not in the mood. When he is doing the planning thing, he offers very little positive feedback and mostly has negative things to say. It really demotivates me to do anything and has put me in a planning slump. We have an arrangement where I would do the research and he would review, but it really is being anything but that. He goes back and researches, like he doesn’t think I did a good enough job or much at all. I’m not sure what to say or do now.
Post # 4
My FI and I had to "have a little talk." It is clear that he is totally not going to do the research end of things. And like Mr. JCM, he was not terribly enthusiastic about some of the things I have come up with. Or if he was, then my mom wasn’t. Grrrr. After a little breakdown (and subsequent talk) last week, he is actually being much better. I don’t think he actually realized how many hours and hours of looking can go into coming up with a couple of reasonable alternatives. He is trying much harder to be enthusiastic and appreciative. Hopefully it lasts.