(Closed) Wedding overload!!

posted 10 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
Member
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Totally. I was just sitting here (and still am) thinking about it and I have slightly over 200 days left. I don’t have very many of my vendors booked yet and I’m really feeling run down. My coordinator’s automated reminder e-mails about a deadline coming up or passing haunts me.

I think it’s great that you’re taking a break and letting the manmeat take over. 😉 You really want to be able to enjoy all the hard work that has gone into this event and you can’t if you’re stressed and stretched out thinly before. 62 days will fly by SO quickly so just try to take thing easy now. However, don’t do something just because you think that it is expected and required. Do what YOU want, what you will enjoy most..Otherwise, I promise you won’t have a good time. You should enjoy the experience.

I have a bit of time off and I feel pressured to get everything done but I can’t make any decisions or whatnot until I get the A-OK from Mr. JCM. The problem is he’s always too busy, too tired, or not in the mood. When he is doing the planning thing, he offers very little positive feedback and mostly has negative things to say. It really demotivates me to do anything and has put me in a planning slump. We have an arrangement where I would do the research and he would review, but it really is being anything but that. He goes back and researches, like he doesn’t think I did a good enough job or much at all. I’m not sure what to say or do now.

Post # 4
Member
2293 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

My FI and I had to "have a little talk."  It is clear that he is totally not going to do the research end of things.  And like Mr. JCM, he was not terribly enthusiastic about some of the things I have come up with.  Or if he was, then my mom wasn’t.  Grrrr.  After a little breakdown (and subsequent talk) last week, he is actually being much better.  I don’t think he actually realized how many hours and hours of looking can go into coming up with a couple of reasonable alternatives.  He is trying much harder to be enthusiastic and appreciative.  Hopefully it lasts.

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