- 7 years ago
So I have 4 bridesmaids, I knew who I wanted the day after I got engaged and asked them right away. There’s no problem there, not really anyways (there may be future drama with two of the girls, but we’ll deal with that as it happens). The issue is with FI’s groomsmen. I asked him when we got engaged who he wanted to stand with him and he said he’d get back to me. Well, tonight he did. He picked his guys.
There’s 11 of them.
Okay, seriously bees, I’m not one to get all antsy about an uneven bridal party. But 4 and 11?! That’s just odd. PLUS he hasn’t seen 3 of the guys in over 2 years (they haven’t even met me!), 2 others are the biggest d-bags I know, and 1 hates me. Not the greatest picks, In My Humble Opinion.
If he really needs all 11, fine. It’s his wedding too and I really do want him to pick the guys he feels would be best suited to stand up with him and support our marriage. But at the same time… he knew I had 4 girls and I had asked him to pick around the same number if possible (3-6 would have been so much better). It’s really not a big deal, I’ve already figured out how to “stage” them during the ceremony – a semi circle behind us with the girls staggered every 2-3 boys. I just can’t believe how clueless guys can be about weddings!!
ETA: He hasn’t asked them yet, he wants to wait a little while. There may be hope yet…