- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
Hello, my fellow bees. I have the feeling that this is probably a rant better left to my journal, but I figured that if there’s anybody out there who might understand the way I’m feeling, it’s you girls. I’m just wondering how many of you out there have had to put up with members of your bridal party complaining that they hate this or hate that, and how did you respond to these complaints?
My maid of honor and best man are both driving me crazy. First, I had to change the STYLE of the bridesmaid dresses for my maid of honor and her sister (who is a bridesmaid) because they changed their minds on the dresses we had all previously agreed on, refused to wear this dress, and then neglected to tell me this until four months before the wedding and just before the maid of honor was moving to Toronto! I spend the next three weeks looking for new dresses, asking everyone for their approval on the new dresses, and chasing the maid of honor to get her measurements so I could place the order for the new dresses MYSELF. Oh, and when she asked me what color she would be wearing, and I said baby blue, her response was, “Ugh! That’s going to look SO bad with my skin tone!” Ummm… I’m sorry, but I thought that weddings were supposed to be planned according to the colors that the BRIDE and GROOM happens to LIKE, not the color that looks best on the maid of honor?! In either case, I didn’t actually say that to her, I just told her that that was the color of my wedding and that I couldn’t change it because I already had too much stuff bought (which was true, in case you were wondering).
Then, I had to buy a vest for my best man because the color I wanted him to wear was not available to rent. I bought the largest size available, and even though he was given the vest in January, he waited until last month to tell me that it was too small for him. However, he said that his grandmother could make him a new vest so I bought a pattern and some fabric and trusted that all would go well. Last week (less than a month to go before the wedding), best man sends FI a message over Facebook saying that the vest didn’t work out because he was too big for even the largest size on the pattern! I wound up making an appointment with the seamstress who worked on my wedding gown who said that she doesn’t have enough time to make a new vest, but to bring the first one I bought and she would do something with that. So I called the best man’s mother since the best man wasn’t home and she went on and on and ON about how much the best man absolutely HATES this color, how it looks so bad on him, how he was ready to throw it in the garbage, and etc.
After I got off the phone with the best man’s mother, I was fit to be tied! I already let the maid of honor and best man pick the styles of their dress and tuxedo, so is it really necessary for me to let them pick the COLOR too? Does EVERYTHING have to be THEIR way?! It’s not like our maid of honor and best man are kids, either–they’re both in their late twenties so I just could NOT believe how childish, selfish, and RUDE people are being! So you have to wear a color that YOU don’t personally like for a few hours in order to make people you supposedly care about happy on their wedding day! Is that REALLY such a big deal?! And is baby blue really all that awful? Personally, I think that members of the party should just wear whatever the bride and groom TELL them to wear because it’s OUR wedding, not theirs! I think a bride and groom deserve to have their wedding the way THEY want it, but maybe that’s just me? Or maybe I just feel a little more entitled because I planned almost this entire wedding by MYSELF with ZERO assistance from either the maid of honor or the best man. It’s really making me mad that people are complaining about plans they didn’t help me in any way with. I planned this wedding the best way I could, based on MY and FI’s preferences, no one else’s, and too bad if anyone else doesn’t like it! End of rant, and if you’ve read this far, thank you. lol