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How would he feel about asking his dad? I've seen that in a couple of weddings and it's really sweet. if they're close that would be an option. If he asks his younger cousin too, that makes 3.
I don't think 2/3 on his side and 4 on yours is awkward....but he shouldn't have to try to "find" people for his side. In our wedding we had 2 people on each side - it's a lot easier on the wedding budget lol...
thanks for the idea of asking his dad! i just asked him what he thought of that and he said, that's an option. makes me feel better that he'd have someone he wants in his party, rather than just finding someone.
You shouldn't try to force him to have more groomsmen than he wants. Lots of people have uneven bridal parties, so you should each ask who you want to stand up for you, whether that be one or 4 people.
I would try to have agood idea as far as who is having who on each side before you start asking, I mean Family is going to be a given so you would be OK asking family, but I would wait on the friends part. My FI and I had a VERY simular prob. We both are in the Military and he has been in much longer than I have and so he has lost all contact with his friends from back home, and then in the military its hard to have friends that arent always coming and going, and deployments and transfering to different commands etc...
For me I had all my girlfriends back home and then some new ones I had met in the Military, so I had SO MANY and he had so few. We just had to talk it out and try to even the sides out and what not, He has two sister and we actually ended up deciding to have them stand on his side (same dresses but black as my BM's) and they are going to be Groomswomen. You just do whatever ya gotta to make it happen and even out! Best of luck!
You sound just like me just before I got engaged. When my FI and I saw that movie we both said that it sounded exactly like him. So what he did was ask his brother, my brother, and two of my cousins. But now he has started really close relationships with a couple of new guys and wants to put them all in the wedding and that is going to make us have more guys than girls now. If the bridal party is uneven, I don't think it really matters that much. I don't think I've been to a wedding lately where there was an even number. You can have your BM's and GM walk seperately or you can pair them up.
Enjoy your day and include those who matter most to you whether they are male or female. Good Luck 
@Jacqui - I'm not trying to force him to have more groomsmen than he wants, I just want him to have people that he wants up there. I'm basically just trying to create a spark in his head of people that mean something to him. Personally, I would much rather elope and avoid "picking a party", but that's not an option with our families.
@KT - Yeah, I'm nervous about asking my friends until my boyfriend has an idea of what he is comfortable with having on his side. I will definitely be asking my sister, because she will be my MOH. The problem with my boyfriend is that he's the most indecisive person on the face of this earth. I have this horrible feeling that it's going to get down to the wire (I'm talking the month before the wedding) and he's still not going to have asked anyone.
@roxy - I was actually thinking of talking to him about asking my two cousins (I don't have any brothers, but they are almost like brothers to me). I like that asking them would include family that means something to us. I'm also now considering asking my younger girl cousin to be a bridesmaid. My boyfriend doesn't like to socialize, except for playing hockey, which I thought might bring him closer to some guys, but all the guys who I ask him about who play hockey with him he tells me no. It's funny how much that "i love you man" movie means to so many people! haha.
I was told to watch "I Love You, Man" so we saw it tonight. It is funny b/c it describes my fiance too. Only thing is, he does not want to ask anyone...and of course I do, but he thinks it will look funny if he doesn't have anyone on his side.
@iggies - my fiance plays hockey too and i asked him the same question!
Good luck!
i had the same dilemma too, at first wanted 5 girls, 5 guys, but then i wanted 3 more girls to be up there with me because they were so special to me and i wanted them to stand by me.. i wasn't sure if FI had enough guys..while FI has 7 guys, didn't want to pressure him into finding the 8th guys so it would be "even" honestly, now that i think about it..to me, i really don't care if it's uneven, just as long as you have the people you love up there with you, that's really all that matters..and it's your special day...good luck=)
I think asking family from your side is a great idea! They are always going to be there & who knows if a friendship between your FI and your cousins could spark up! His dad is also a great idea as well. He would probably be very honored. In my opinion, family is very important to include in the wedding. BTW, go ahead and ask your girls! It's your day & if that is what you want, the rest will fall into place eventually! Good luck with everything!
thanks all for your advice! i was getting worried that i was making a big mistake thinking about who i wanted and asking my boyfriend already. he and i talked about it a little more and he's liking the idea of asking his dad and his cousin, which is great, because he and his dad are close and his cousin idolizes him and i think would love to be in his groomsmen (he's only 15, but everything he does mimics my boyfriend, because he has no siblings either). i just want to see him have people that love him, supporting him up there with me.
@meeksy - that's too funny that your boyfriend plays hockey and you asked him the same question about putting some hockey friends as his groomsmen! sometimes, i think he spends more time with them than he does with me! haha.
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I'm not engaged just yet (it's coming very soon), but I've been thinking about who I want to have as my bridesmaids. I know that I want to ask my sister and my 3 very good friends to be my bridesmaids. No dilemma there, my dilemma is with my bf.
If anyone has seen that movie, "I Love You Man", they will completely understand what I am going through with my boyfriend. He has one somewhat close friend (the husband of one of the girls that I want to ask to be a bridesmaid), he will probably ask that guy to be his best man. Unfortunately, I have asked him about who he might think of asking to be the other guys in his party and he says he has no idea. I throw out names of guys that I know he talks with and sees on a semi-regular basis, but he says that none of them are people he would want as his groomsmen (he's undecided about asking his younger cousin). He has no brothers (only step-brothers and they aren't super close and they're also 20 years older than us), so that's not an option. I keep getting this mental picture of my boyfriend going on blind man-dates to find his groomsmen.
I know this is getting ahead of myself, but I figure it's better to ask now, so I have one less thing to worry about when the engagement comes. So my dilemma is that when the time comes, do I go ahead and ask the 4 girls to be in my party and hope that my boyfriend decides on 2-3 other guys (i have no problem with an extra girl in the party), or do I just ask my sister and one other girl and figure that my boyfriend will only have 1 or 2 guys in his party?