Post # 1
I’m not yet engaged, but I’m still preparing because I know my SO wants a short engagement. In my mind, my wedding party would be:
My childhood best friend in the whole wide world-MOH
My best friend from college- Bridesmaid or Best Man
My SOs kick ass sister- Bridesmaid or Best Man
My issue is with my roommate. She’s getting ready to move in with her SO and so weedding stuff comes up naturally and I porbably talk to her about wedding stuff more than anyone. While she considers me her best friend, I consider her a good friend, and absolutely cannot imagine having her in my bridal party. She’s a pretty big Debby Downer and can turn any situation into a negative one with her cynicism. I don’t want that kind of energy around me during my wedding. I know it’s still far off, but I get nervous thinking about this situation because I know it is going to seriously hurt her feelings.
Has anyone else ran into a situation like this? Can I salvage a friendship without losing my sanity?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
Can you think of a way, maybe a “title” even, to include her, but not in the bridal party? Explain that you’re having a small bridal party, but would love for her to (fill in the blanks: do a reading, hand out programs, come look at dresses/invites, make something…). If she moves out before you get engaged, you may find yourself not talking to her about the wedding stuff as much anyway, so you won’t feel as obligated. I would first figure out some way to involve her before bringing it up.
Post # 4
And another question…
Two of my Bridesmaid or Best Man will be married by the time my wedding rolls around. There’s nothing wrong with haveing married BMs right? I’m new to this whole planning thing. I think this would make my Maid/Matron of Honor actually a matron of honor….does that mean I still need a maid of honor? This is all confusing…What’s the ettiquette in this situation?
Post # 5
Of course your married friends can be bridesmaids. As far as your Maid/Matron of Honor goes, you can have just one or you can have 2 if you want and call one the Maid and one the Matron.